my bf and i quarrel all the time. it is getting annoying. He calls me names and talks about what other girls call him.....and it's annoying.....he gets mad when i get mad.....i know what most of youmight tell me " leave him" and ive tried that any times...but i find myself back wit him withing a couple of dayz. i dont think itsnormal to quarrel so much and be in love...could i be mistaking dependency as love?...could he be confusing lust with love?....i really do not want to waste my time ......would u sacrifice for love?
2006-12-28 18:16:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would sacrifice for love but not to be hurt and put down constantly. i hope you understand that he's verbally abusing you by calling you names and such and these kinds of things could lead to other types of abuse. no one can tell you what to do but i hope you take care of yourself and realize you are possibly puting yourself in danger for a lot worse than how you are being treated now. if he really loved you i'm sorry but he wouldn't be treating you this way
good luck and be safe
2006-12-28 18:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the fighting is everyday, than that is to stressful. There could be love there it's just that's how you communicate. Every relationship has a language. You 2 have taught each other that you like 2 fight. If you want to get out of this funk. Then set some guidelines.No more name calling. There are healthy ways for couples to fight but on a regular bases is to much. Learn how to defuse the argument. That doesn't mean give in but when you know you are fighting about something that makes no sense, Stop and ask him why are we fighting. As long as nothing gets physical you guys have a chance. But you do need to know in your heart if you love him. If so than the relationship is worth the change.
2006-12-29 03:07:41 · answer #2 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i have the same problem, but heres whats happening, u have convinced yourself that u are in love with him, even though it may only be a crush or lust, so when u break up, all u think about is getting him back because u think u love him, but u dont, u have just told urself that so many times u belive it now. i say dump him once and for all, try to find a new guy, hang out with ur friends so u dont think about him as much. good luck <3
2006-12-29 02:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between self-sacrifice and arguing all the time. Self sacrifice requires you giving of yourself to make your partner happy (hopefully your other does the same). Arguing...well...it's arguing. It's happens in any normal relationship, but if it's out of hand it's best to let go. What you're saying sounds more like settling than sacrifice; sacrifice would be something like you have Event A you want to go to and they have Event B, neither event happens that often but you go to theirs b/c it will make them happy and that should make you happy
2006-12-29 02:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by That Guy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesn't sound very loving
2006-12-29 02:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by Veevee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋