Boyfriend doesn't want me to lose weight?

Question

I was losing weight over the summer and my bf made a comment that I needed to slow down b/c he doesn't want a skinny girl but I was 180 and 5ft. 9 (size 13) I would like to be 145lbs but I am scared he won't be attracted to me

No, he is very lean and in shape. He just loves my upper and lower halves of my body and doesn't want them to go away w/ the weight loss

Answer 1

It could be one of two things. Perhaps he is worried that if you lose the weight that you want to lose other men will likely be more attractive to you, which would make it easier for you to leave him for someone else. I know it sound silly but I was in a relationship like that once and that was his greatest fear. It could also be that he is worried about you getting TOO skinny and developing an eating disorder or something of the sort. Just comfort him by telling him not that you want to lose weight, but that you want to feel healthy and confident, and that you are committed to him 100%

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Answer 2

It sounds to me like your boyfriend has some insecurity issues. I went through the same thing with a ex-boyfriend. Everytime I tried to loss weight, he would try and sabatage me. Bring home pizza or whatever. I finally figured out, he didn't want me to lose weight because he was scared that I would find someone better than him. Also, he didn't like the fact that as I got thinner, more men were starting to take notice of me. Your boyfriend needs to know that you will love him and be with him no matter what size you are. Lose weight for yourself so you can be healthy. If he leaves you because you lost weight, he wasn't worth being with in the first place. Good luck!

Answer 3

If you're scared he won't be attracted to you, you're with the wrong guy. You should be confident that the person you're with will support you. I think the most important part of your question was "I would like to be 145 lbs." YOU, not him, not your friends, not Joe down the street.... do what you want. It's your body. He may just be used to you the way you are. Slim down and show him that, while a hottie, you're still the same person. And if he doesn't see it, someone else will.

Answer 4

The only reason/s you should be losing weight at your weight and height is because you are unhappy your overall health and zest for life.............not to please someone else!!!! If you are unhappy, uncomfortable with the way you are now, by all means lose weight, healthfully. Make sure you don't be silly though by cutting out whole food groups. Just eliminate things like white bread, dead foods, candy, cakes, lollies, soft drinks, chocolate, ice cream and incorporate lots of alive fresh fruit and vegetables in your diet on a daily basis. Get lots of fresh air and sunshine too, don't underestimate the value of Vitamin D!! Usually we can't get enough Vit. D from the sun so eat tuna/salmon on a daily basis. Without it your body wont regenerate and thrive very efficiently..........lack of Vit D inhibits absorption and assimilation of Calcium and Protein.......By the way, 145lbs sounds a bit scary skinny for 5ft 9". Maybe 155 - 160 lbs sounds more like it. ......Good Luck....:)

Answer 5

So many girls get too skinny/anorexic, or lose weight because they want to 'be thin', not because they want to be healthy.
I hope he's just worried about you going too far the other way, or wants to make sure you still like yourself.
Does he seem genuinely concerned for you? Or just insecure you're going to leave him when you realize how hot you are?

Answer 6

Honey, the only person you should ever lose or gain weight for is yourself. He shouldn't want a skinny girl or a big girl, he should want you; and if that's not his m.o. then he's not worth your time. If you want to get down to 145 then go for it girl! Best of luck!

Answer 7

Girl, don't trip=) it's just that your boyfriend likes a girl with alittle meat on her bones that's all. Boys are into to that big booty & curves thing lol it's alright but if you don't like it then he's just gonna have to get over it good luck

Answer 8

I'll keep it simple. If he loves you he will love you for who you are and not what you look like. if you want to loose weight (a healthy weight) then you go for it. you tell him that "you will have to accept me for the way i want to me or what i am". if he can't accept you for who you are then you dont want a guy like that anyway and there is someone better out there for you. do what you want not what he wants you'll be happier in the long .

Answer 9

you feeling good about yourself is what really matters here. your boyfriend is not going anywhere==he is probably worried that you might start wandering & looking for new guys to be with. He is probably just a little insecure with himself. If you feel good about yourself & want to loose more weight then do so. Make sure you are loosing weight in a safe way==

Answer 10

I've lost 5 kilos in my first week. It's my 10th day and I have included salad with some protein (eg. egg/ lean chicken) as you suggested. After 4 years of trying, the fat is finally coming off. It truly feels like magic!

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