The guy I'm seeing is overly jealous and fiercely protective...I'm having doubts of it actually working out. However, I don't blame him for his behavior. I have an awful track record when it comes to bfs..I've never slept around, but a few drunken kisses at the bar definitely don't help. This guy knows my past..and knows my personality. I'm really friendly, outgoing, bubbly and naturally flirtacious. I have about 4 female friends, and the rest are males. I get along better with guys.
How do I calm his jealousy? I have no intentions of cheating, and I've controlled my bar behavior..however, I can't change my personality for someone, and I refuse to. I get pursued a lot by males..and get hit on constantly. I'm nice to the guys back..but I never let it go any further. We're constantly bickering over it..and it's driving me crazy. He's a good looking male, and girls practically hang off of him, and yet..I control my jealousy..why can't he do the same? Any advice?
2006-12-28 17:57:02 · 2 answers · asked by Massacre 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Where's this relationship going? Are you courting or dating? Either you like the guy or you don't ... you want to make him happy or you don't. Are you gonna commit yourself to him or not?
It sounds like you want to hang at the bar with your friends, pump up your self-esteem by flirting with other guys, and crave attention from males.
Cut this guy loose, it sounds like your not done playing the field, and this guy is not "the one."
If you were in a seriously committed relationship with him, say married, would you expect him to tolerate your kissing on, flirting with, and the intimacy of your other male relationships?
Generally speaking this type of possessiveness is a sign of unfounded insecurity, but in your case he has every right to be anxious. He thinks he's found what he's looking for, but you're sharing yourself all over the place.
2006-12-28 18:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by AnswerGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a wasted emotion. If trust exists then there's no reason for it. If trust is missing then the relationship is definitly in trouble. It sounds like you both have some growing up to do. I say that kindly of course. With age, comes experience. It's hard to recognize until you get there. Best wishes.
2006-12-29 02:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋