Everytime I let my guard down I get dumped on. I feel bad that I distrust people in general, but I haven't ever really been given much reason to trust.
Are we supposed to just keep on trying to forge relationships with family members who gossip about us behind our backs - no matter how much it hurts us? Relationships with family members are hard because we are stuck with them! :(
This is about my mother-in-law in case you are wondering. She always denies she has done anything wrong and when she gossips about me she insists that the people "just knew" whatever it is she has gossiped about. Like they are psychic or something. Yeah, right!
And no, my husband won't really do anything about this even though it's his mother. :(
2006-12-28 17:56:33 · 9 answers · asked by SuzieQ92 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, we have talked with her. We even went to her pastor and talked with him and her. She lied right in front of him, so talking hasn't helped things at all. :(
2006-12-28 18:03:31 · update #1
never trust anyone... i think they are after you ..
2006-12-28 17:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because shes family doesnt mean you actually need to trust her. Alot of people are dishonest now, So why trust anyone. Go with your instinct and trust only who you feel you need to trust.
Just don't tell your step mom stuff. And if your husband tells her stuff then she goes on gossiping about it. Just ask Him to stop. If he loves you enough he will. So He must know that theres something you don't like about his mother. So he needs to except that. So yeah I hope that your step mom stops the gossiping.
Oh yeah No wonder what you say to her. She probaly will continue to deny it. So don't even try to convince her That she had been gossiping.
2006-12-28 18:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what girl my mother-n-law was the same way and yeah it hurt because i tried so hard to get her to like me. but then i just got real one day and said if she don't like me oh well. why should i keep trying to get somebody to like me when it will never happen. plus if she keeps talking about you then all you can do is forgive her---meaning don't even confront her about because what good use has that turned out to be. nothing really! you keep this on your shoulders all the time it is going to hurt but if you let it go then she will see that whatever she does to get you mad wont work anymore. also who knows my mother-n-law could still be talking about me but you know what i don't care--I'm not married to her and i don't have to deal with her like i would with my husband. so please girl don't sweat it. just forget about it. why let a perfect day get screwed up by your n-law's big mouth.
2006-12-28 18:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by JANE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to your mother-in-law about how you really feel and tell her how much you hate it when she gossips about you. Or ask your husband to do it. Good Luck.
2006-12-28 17:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Choco Lover♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mother-in-law is plain jealous of you. Your youth and especially as you are the one who stole her son from her. Know matter how you try you will never please women like her so don't give her ammunition to gossip the less she knows about you the less she will be able to talk about you. Once your husband stands up for you she'll come beckoning to you.
2006-12-28 18:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by patsie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. Try to keep her from finding things out about you. Let your husband know that you are not to be talked about with his mother. He should respect you enough to know that she doesn't need to know your personal business. You can't let her get to you. Let her be mean and nasty by herself. Take back the control you have given her. Be the bigger woman. Good Luck.
2006-12-28 18:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do...
That's the exact same case with my mom and her mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law(my grandma) is always saying everything that
goes wrong is my mom's fault and then she just goes on with life
as if saying that stuff isn't going to hurt. But we all know it does. My
mom is tired of her attitude and frankly, it's pissing me off too.
No one deserves to be treated like that, especially when they're
apart of your family. My dad doesn't really do anything about it either.
Have you tried talking to her maybe? I know it's not really the
easiest thing to do, but maybe it could help?
Good luck with everything though. =]
2006-12-28 18:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that the people that know me, knows what is the truth or not, I am sorry that this is happening, there really isn't anything that you can do, except what you having already done. remember that you can lead a bee to honey but not to vinager, You husband has no back bone, so you have to do this on your own. good luck, it sounds like she wants you out.
2006-12-28 18:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by Diana J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it takes me alot of time.
2006-12-28 17:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by Zaki M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋