with he does die..............what about me? someone please help?

Question

my papaw(grandfather) has lung cancer....there is no way i could ever exsplain how much i love my papaw to you over the net. he is with out a thought my #1 and i wish it weren't true, it cant be true if he dies idk what i'll do....i think i'll die, i'm to young 4 this to be happening i just ant take it...i'll die thats what i'll do...is there someoen out there who feels the same?? please what did you do???

Answer 1

You go on living. That's certainly what he wants you to do.

When he passes, you will feel terrible for weeks. Absolutely terrible. Much worse than you feel now.

But then, slowly, the pain will ease and eventually you'll accept the loss. This happens to everybody to a lesser or greater degree when a loved one dies -- and for the most part, the human race finds a way to press on.

You will too.

Answer 2

Emilee:

I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I had a good job and two beautiful children. I made all the arrangements to have the cancer removed. Afterwards I had to go for "Chemo" treatments and "Radiation". It was hell!! I lost most of my hair, I was vomiting most of the time and I had no energy. I wanted to DIE...but I made a decision that either I would go into a hole and die or I was going to fight and live.

I choce LIFE, I had two children I had to be strong for and live for. I went into remition 1 year later! Three years ago I had to have a "Pace maker" put on and this current year I had to have a procedure to my heart called "Puminary Vein Ablation" for "Atrial Fibilation" of which you can get a blood clot in your brain, get a stroke and most probably die or become a vegetable. The procedure took 7 hours, but it has been successful. I'm doing so well that I don't even have to take medications anymore.

So.... yes I have felt the same as you, but faith and prayer is a powerful thing. I have overcome all abstacles in my life... I'm still here and I am happy! What has helped me is my positive attitute, prayer and my faith in "God" or a Force that's greater then us. If you believe in prayer, then pray and keep your faith. It is important that you stay strong for him, I'm sure he wouldn't want you to die! Foucus on all the good memories you've had with him. Talk to him about them and make him laugh, laughter is the best medicine for the soul!!

The reality is that he might still die! It is important that those around us except that; in turn, it makes it easier for that person to except his death also...it will help them go in peace.

I hope that this helped, I'll be praying for you and him. May the "Lord/Force" give you peace of mind! Please write back!!

Peace,

Ellie
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Answer 3

Well, u don't say your age., I think that is important. Look, my best friend's mother died from lung cancer this year, it was really hard for him but he finally overcome it. When his mother died he became head of the family, he had to take care of his grandmother (that is very old) and of himself (he had to support himself because his father left him years ago). At first it was really hard but he knew that the only thing to do was to survive, he is fine now, I say him a few months ago and he seems normal.

I know it is hard but you have to think that first of all I am sure your grandfather loved you, then he would hate to see you all down and thinking about dead; he would like to see you happy and enjoying life.

Take some time to cry, but not too much time. You have a life ahead, and trust me, life is such a wonderful thing!!.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry sweetie but this is a sad part of life that you will have to go through. I lost my grandpa a long time ago and like you I didn't know what I'd do without him. But after time passes the hurt won't be as bad but you will always have your wonderful memories of him, they can never die. But don't start grieving now enjoy him while he is here ok. He's so lucky to have you.

Answer 5

aww sweetie you made me cry i feel the same way my pawpa and yes i call him that is me every thing i really dont know what i would do if he died i dont know how i would handle it and i am scared to even think about it i cry some times just thinking abiut that day but if you ever need some one o talk to i am here even thought i dont really know you at all but i can feel your pain sweetie my pawpa is more then that he is my dad to i lived with him up untill i was 18 from 6 to 18 i had no one but him i am going to pray for both of you

Answer 6

one biblical answer would be to mourn for thirty days, then continue on w/ your life. when moses died the israelites were given thirty days to mourn then they had to continue.