I been in love with a married man for about 3 years. During this 3 years, his wife already know about us, but his wife still haven't let go of him. He still love his wife but he claimed that he do love me too. When I ask him to choose between both of us, he said he is not able to choose. I can't let go of him and I wonder why his wife can tolerate his affair with other woman?
2006-12-28 17:42:19 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He did choose. He chose her.
2006-12-28 17:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I wonder why you can tolerate being with a married man..Do you have such low self esteem that you don't think you can find a man that will put you first...Isn't that what you deserve? You need to have self respect and let him go..If he did not want to be with his wife he would leave her..You are tearing up a family..If they have a chance to work things out then you need to get out of the way and allow them to. Marriage is a life time commitment and obviously he doesn't care to much about his vows, so what makes you think things would be different with you..If he really loved you like I am sure he is telling you then he would be with you and not going back to his wife and getting some from each of you..You are only a play toy to him..The fact that his wife knows about you and is still trying to work things out proves that they both are willing to try and get passed it..But think about this I bet his wife is up crying each night thinking about what he has done to her and instead of changing like he should be he is still off with you..That is just not right!! He has no respect for you are his wife..He deserves for both or you to leave his *** hanging.
Move on to some body that loves you and respects you do not cut yourself short..And have some morals!!
2006-12-28 17:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The reason he hasn't chose anyone one is because he likes the way the situation is. He knows that he really doesn't have to make a choice because the wife still loves him and that you do too. His wife has her reasons for tolerating the affair,for one she loves him and is hoping you will bow out when you realize that he is never going to leave her for you. How does that make you feel to know that you are always going to be second fiddle to his wife. In the long run if his wife doesn't finally leave him first you'll be the one out in the cold with years put into this relationship still waiting for him to come to you. He won't,he'll never make that choice. The only wayhe might do it is if his wife kicks his *** to the curb. Then you'll always have to keep looking behind your back to see who he's going with then. IF HE IS DOING IT TO HER HE WILL DO IT TO YOU.
2006-12-29 00:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by K. l 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The real question is why you say you love a man who can easily hurt two women while claiming he loves them. This is not love. I assure you, listen carefully.....THIS IS N O T LOVE. Sadly, your pain now is the consequences you have to suffer for not caring for the feelings of the woman this man married. You should have had nothing to do with him. it is not the wife that will not "let go of him". He has made the choice to stay with her while having you on the side and carelessy hurting the both of you. He does not love you or her. He simply loves himself. If you are smart you will toss him aside and go find a man who can actually call himself a man instead of this poor excuse for one.
2006-12-28 17:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're asking the wrong questions! Why can't you let go? He doesn't belong to you. This man is married. Why would you be in love with someone that is married. He tooks vows with another woman. How can you trust a man like that. If he violated his sacred vows with his wife, how do you know he wouldn't do the same with you. It's obvious that she loves her husband and wants her marriage to work. Why don't you find someone that's not married!?
2006-12-28 17:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by Ms.shauncy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pls let him go, for yourself, he is lying to you when he claims that he loves u but hurting u in such a manner.
No man can love 2 person equally, in this case it's obvious he chose his wife and family, he says he love u just so he can get the best of both world.
Pls trust me when i say that you will be much happier when u let go.
I was in such a bad relationship with this man who lied abt his age and his status, i found out that he not only is married but also made his previous gf pregnant, i was so in love with him but with the help and support of my family and friends i got over him, right now i am with my bf we are so in love and are getting married next year.
This feeling is so much better than the uncertainty u are going through right now.
A man who thinks that u are not good enough for him is not good enough for you.
Email me if u want to. Take care
i really hope u make the right choice and be strong
2006-12-28 17:47:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't divorced then he did make his choice. He chose his wife. His wife tolerates his affair the same way you are tolerating him not leaving his wife. If it's been three years and he hasn't left her yet, he's not going to. He doesn't have to make a "real" decision because neither one of you are making him. You are probably not the only "other woman" either.
2006-12-28 17:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by lola15 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess his wife thinks that she is not able to let him go also. You are fighting a losing battle. If he hasn't left his wife, and has TOLD you he is not going to leave his wife, there's your sign. It is time to wake up and face the music. Ask yourself if you are willing to waste the rest of your life by loving a man that you must make an "appointment" to see and cannot have him full time.
2006-12-28 18:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by rosey 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a tolerant wife she still must truly love him after knowing about your affair with her husband. What is wrong with you finding your own man and leaving this married man to his wife. Quite obvious you do not have morals.
2006-12-28 17:51:05 · answer #9 · answered by patsie s 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
His wife probably tolerates his affair because she loves him and the security of staying married is better than divorcing him.
He stays with his wife because he loves her, and she won't leave him, and YOU KEEP SLEEPING WITH HIM... so he can have both of you. Everything is perfect for him.
You want to take something you can't have, and you're willing to give up your heart, your soul, and your body to maintain the facade that you have a man who loves you. A man who truly loved you would not disrespect you by having you be his whore. He would want you to be his wife, and nothing would stop him from marrying you.
This man does not love you. Don't throw yourself away on loving him.
2006-12-28 17:47:20 · answer #10 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why do so many women go for married men?! Obviously your married man did choose. He chose his wife. Get a clue, stay away from him and find a single man.
2006-12-28 17:46:45 · answer #11 · answered by kewte_kewpie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋