In the beginning she was always happy now it feels as though everything I do causes a fight. I spoiled her from the beginnging and i'm afraid that I might have made a mistake now it seems as though everything I do is wrong. She wrote me a recent letter and she used past tense for love. Letter states I want to love you like I did when we first meet does that mean she doesn't love me now. Or am I reading to much into it. What do I do. Please help
2006-12-28 17:16:44 · 15 answers · asked by Chris0079 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well the plot thickens we live together and work in an office together is it maybe that were just spending to much time and what do you do in thi situation
2006-12-28 17:30:52 · update #1
when I ask her why she loves me her number one answer is always that I treat her daughter well but shouldn't her number one answer be because she loves me
2006-12-28 17:34:24 · update #2
yeah, the pot's definitely thick... lol
I'll take a shot here though...
Based on what I've read, and not knowing all the small details; I think you're right... I think you may be spending too much time together... Living together, working together, etc... I think she still loves you, but she's getting bored... I mean, after all... she's not ever going to miss you if she doesnt have the CHANCE to miss you, right...? I think she's just tired of seeing you 24/7... that's all...
my suggestions are as follows...
-give her a night or two to go out with her friends, and you do the same... obviously you're coming home to each other, so you don't have anything to worry about... hell, if you really like her daughter, offer to watch her for the night while she goes out and has some fun... then you're scoring double points!
-take up a hobby that gets you away from her for an hour or two... I recommend going to the gym... but I always recommend that... the reason why is, you get to work on your physique and she'll become ever more physically attracted to you at the same time... what's the downside there...?
-last, take up a hobby or activity TOGETHER! keep it just a once or twice a week thing where you can go out and have a good time together... karaoke if you're into that, dancing, do a dinner and movie night once a week... find something you both like to do, and go do it together!
...just remember that the old saying really is true... "abcense makes the heart grow fonder." just give her a little space, man... I think she'll come around...
-Luke
2006-12-28 17:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by luke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Signs Your Husband Is Unhappy
2017-01-03 13:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just dragged you in on a already bad situation, you are just going to have to be a Friend only. She is Venting, till she actually realizes she sounds like a broken record. Her so called husband is a control freck. If she is his bread and butter and he knows that, he wants his cake, and cookies, and not willing to give them up. Which can make him dangerous. This is hard on any friend who sees the hurt and pain of others, just don't get so sucked into it that your putting yourself into harms way. No she shouldn't stay with him the kids are a monkey, see monkey do, they aren't stupid. It is truely up to her the way she decides to live her life. She is just going to make her mind up and not look back on what if, and why it went wrong. She will find a life and later on another person will most likely come along. People are not trained with the value systems any more that there use to be. Parents of males have spoiled, or pampered too much, or just sort of let them grow up with out teaching what they are really suppose to do. This has happened sence the Vetiam War. ( Having sex with other couples is extreamly dangerous at any day and time). Not healthy for any party, the male she is married too is not all up stairs, He could be showing signs of Bipolor, behavior. If they split up she needs to get as far away as possible from him. She needs to open another account in banking with her name only and get rid of that phone. She can go with a different phone company. Only she must not allow him to know it. She should go to a lawyer to seek out her rights. As soon as she makes up her mind it is over. She need to have a leagel sepperation papers drawn up. If she goes to a lawyer before he does she will get more say so. Also if her crappy husband protests the seperation papers her lawyer will stand the ground and make things happen. She can leave but because of the kids she needs a lawyer so it won't look like abandament. (her kids). She has to take the kids with her. But really needs a lawyer first.
2016-03-13 23:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you need to talk to her. Don't confront her though, ask in a caring manner. There could just be something going on in her life that you don't know about that she needs to talk about.
From how I understand the letter, she still loves you, but something is different. You need to find out HOW it's different and discuss TOGETHER how you can make things better.
2006-12-28 17:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by angseu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her straight out I am unhappy and we need to talk that always works
2006-12-28 17:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by jayjaywalkler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry man, her feelings for you are on a decline. You might want to find someone else, but if you love her you have to express that. Did she ever tell you that she has been doing some thinking recently? If so be scared, be very scared!!!
2006-12-28 17:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by james w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here it goes "i want to love you like i did when we first met" basicly means she still does love you but it is not the same as it once was. since you pampered her so much at first she misses that she wants things to be that way again. word to the wise if it doesnt work out next time try not to pamper so much cause if you do she will alway expect it and if you dont constantly deliver she will miss it and you will have problems. bring her flowers and chocolate even if she says she doesnt like them (every girl does) tell her iu love you and to give you another chance. best of luck and hope i helped :)
2006-12-28 17:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by psycho_rhonda 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She doesnt know what she wants. You have to show her that she still loves you. Spend the night with her, Im not sayin have sex, im sayin a whole night of talkin and laughin and sharing and she will want to be with you forever and for always.
2006-12-28 17:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by one tuff babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't give a flying rat's a ss.
Look chief, you can't force something that ain't there no more, tell her to be your girl or get the f u c k out.
2006-12-28 17:27:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about tell her how you feel, what is really going through your mind/heart!
good luck
or maybe give her a surprise or give her something she likes!!
remind her of how you first meet/ feel in love. if you want her that bad!!
2006-12-28 17:19:52 · answer #10 · answered by Countess Blavinskeya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋