I understand that guys like a little intimacy, I really do, but I was about 4-6 months in to my pregnancy and the sickness was too much. I was sick all day everyday. I couldnt stand anything or anyone. My boyfriend at the time made out with another girl on more than one occassion. So I just wanted to know why someone who supposedly loved me would do that
2006-12-28 17:10:05 · 40 answers · asked by bswbaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not all guys are assholes but this guy sounds like a major one. There are better men out there. He should have been next to you helping you while you were sick, not sticking his tongue down some girls throat.
2006-12-28 17:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by Alexa K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well men are like dogs... I am not saying that it is right, but it is natural to go get some when the urge comes. He could have thought that you two weren't going to make it and was with other prospects. He could also felt he really needed some, but didn't want to bother you or feared hurting the baby or you if he did do the dirty with you. Does he still do it? Does he admit he did it and he was wrong for doing so? Sometimes people don't know how to handle things... I am not giving excuses, but sometimes we all make stupid mistakes. The question is did he learn from it or did he learn how not to get caught? Is he sorry for his actions? I cheated once... and of all the boyfriends I ever had, I cheated on my husband. It was my stupidity... and I am so sorry for it to this day, I thought me and my husband was over, I was ready for a divorce... or at least I thought. I thought for sure when he found out my kids and I would be on the curb... but instead he cried and forgave me and believe it or not it made us stronger. He was able to admit to not being the husband I needed for the last four years... and I was able to admit to not being the perfect wife, that until that time I tried to be the perfect wife...till I finally gave up. I don't know if this helps you any, but everyone does make mistakes that they don't mean to. What is sad is that my husband can forgive me, but I can't. I see it as i was weak and left myself vulnerable to another man to just treat like their toy. In the midst of trying to fight the good fight I let down my gard and joined in being the bad guy.
2006-12-28 17:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by summera76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you making excuses for him? or is he blaming you? Come on... you are/were pregnant and sick so he 'makes out' with someone than comes home to tell you about it.
he did it because he is selfish and only cared about himself. if he cared about you he would be home with you helping you feel better - and instead he was with another girl.....
the intimacy was probably not the real issue.. he was probably freaking out because he was about to be a father. (most men do that at one point or another)
Sounds like this was in the past? and obviously not resolved. Maybe you should look into couples therapy.
2006-12-28 17:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I have heard, to most guys, sex and love can be entirely independent of each other. Men cheat the most when their girlfriends and wives are pregnant because they need sex more than we do. THIS DOES NOT MAKE IT OKAY. Perhaps you need to talk to him and ask him why he did it and how he feels about you. Also if what he proclaims to have for you is love, because it sure doesn't look like it.
Also ask him, if he fell ill and couldn't have sex with you, whether he'd appreciate you going elsewhere for it.
Either way try to keep a calm and happy mind at least for the sake of the little one growing inside of you.
2006-12-28 17:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do we constantly allow guys to depict the way we feel or behave.
I'm sure most of us feel that we are independent self-reliant women yet when a guy doesn't call, we feel like ****. Suddenly we are no longer confident. Does he not like me anymore? Like wat the ****. I need to get off that hook. I need to think that i can move on. I know i can but i need time. After that i want no more emotional attachments cos they eventually hurt u. But i know no matter how much u tell urself to keep things simple..it becomes complicated.
Sch is ******* stressful with mid-terms on their way and project deadlines approaching like a looming dark cloud. Life has never been this stressful and boring. It's a routine. Sch-project meeting-home. But i dun think i can handle any distraction. It'll be too hectic. But my darlings..u can come and disturb me anytime. I appreciate the asking of my well being and concern from u people. It really helps.
I just want to make sure i never fall into the trap again. No matter how shitty or boring life can be..it's still better than having ur heart heaved out of ur body and being trampled on.
When i see someone in love, i feel like yanking their heads out and filling it with hate. I wonder what's so especially abt love that one actually forgets his own identity? I'm not toking without experience..Infact i can say with much certainty that I hate the feeling of being in love..It makes u weak, vulnerable, clingy, wide-eyed, dreamy and so many other words i can come out with that associate back to being a loser.. Where's the strong, up-town, sophisticated, I-Know-i can -make-it on-my-own woman? I'm really a huge feminist.. which is why i dun give a **** abt what a guy has to offer me cos it's never enough and also i can get watever i want myself!
2006-12-28 17:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are not dogs, just misguided. we or should I say most men think with his penis, you are pregnant and always sick, couldn't stand anyone not even your boyfriend. well, its not your fault. hormones took over in the case with your boyfriend though what he should have done was just beat off. he now has put you at risk of any an all deseases, your boyfriend only loved what he could get out of you and you getting pregnant did'nt change him, he had been messing around way before you got pregnant. Love is'nt just a spoken word.........
2006-12-28 17:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by DJenks64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of three reasons: 1) he's immature 2) he's scared or 3) he's a jerk
That's a horrible thing to do and you deserve so much better than that. If he were a stand up, responsible, and mature guy, he would have stuck by you. Are you still with him?
2006-12-28 17:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by RomanceStuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he doesn't love you, is not committed to you, is a selfish ******, still thinks with his ****, and is generally like the stuff you find on the bottoms of your shoes. Lose him!!! Now!!!
Edit Addition; The answers that say "it's because he's a man and men are trash" are both sexist and wrong. There are wonderful, honest, responsible men in this world and they make loving partners. The piece of garbage you've allowed into your life (and you have allowed it) is not a man.
2006-12-28 17:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by Caper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart, I really don't know, how old is he? perhaps he is just running scared, maybe revenge for you not being able to stand him at the time, sounds like his hormones are more important to him than a real relationship. Maybe he will grow up, maybe he won't, personally I would chuck him, I certainly would never trust him again. Get proper counselling if you stay with him and he says he is sorry.
2006-12-28 17:16:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly some males are strongly driven be the desire for sex. They are more self-centered than woman and often view sex as a biological need just like food. If a guy wants sex bad enough, he'd try to do the tail pipe of a moving car.
Seriously, I think you need to rethink your relationship. This guy obviously isn't mature enough to be a husband and father.
2006-12-28 17:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by tfedge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋