Long story short. I was with this guys for four years. He cheated twice. This last time, it last a long time, she disappeared and reappeared. Shortly after we started working things out again, she calls and says she is pregnant. He moves back to our hometown shortly after and I have been going back and forth seeing him and being with him and then I find out that he is living with her. He has been trying to get back with me and I questioned him about a few things and he did a really good job trying to prove to me that he wasn't with her. Anyway, I go to talk to him and he won't because I told him I knew about it in a voicemail. So, I sent the girl all the emails, texts, picture mail and voicemails that he left me and she called me and basically said that it was all a lie and that I was a sideline hoe. He then calls me and curses me and asks me why I sent her that stuff and then hangs up in my face, then few mins later calls and says he didn't mean it that way and he was sorry.
2006-12-28 17:05:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to add, he only called and did that because he knew that I was out the door and he was just trying to save whatever he has with her. He doesn't want to be with her, but this is his first child and he thinks that its the right thing to do.
2006-12-28 17:20:34 · update #1
YOU WERE WITH GUY FOR 4 YEARS. SO YOUR FEELING
FOR HIM IS VERY NORMAL. BUT JUST LIKE THAT, IT TIME
FOR YOU TO START TO LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR YOUR SELF
AND STOP LET HIM HURT AND DISRESPECT YOU. YOU
DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER. FIRST THING IS STOP
GOING TO SEE HIM, HE WIITH HER SO LET IT BE, THE'
PHONE SHOULD ALSO STOP. IT MAY BE HARD AT FIRST
TO LET GO, BUT AS THE TIME GO ON IT WILL GET MUCH
BETTER. YOU SOUND LIKE SOMEONE THAT CAN DO
MUCH BETTER. AND TRUST ME , HE NOT ALREADY
CHEATING ON HER , HE WILL BE SHORTLY. TIME
TO MOVE ON. PUT HIM IN THE PAST WHERE HE BELONG.
2006-12-28 17:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run fast b4 he gets you pregnant too! you WILL regret that you gave him ur heart and you'll be saying "if only i could turn back time to correct this mistake!!" it's hard right now to get over the guy, but years or even months from now you'll realize how Wonderful it was 2 move on. Trust me...he will not change & it wll get worse....no matter how he acts, deep inside he wont respect you b/c he knows you're pretty much SPRUNG over him & will take anything from him. you may have high times w/ the guy, but he will keep bringing you back down w/ his inconsiderate actions. do you think he would have knocked someone else up if he wanted 2 spend the rest of his life w/ you? the guys is not worth it. Give yourself a chance to be genuinely happy....b/c right now, you are cheating your own self out of it. REAL TALK!!!
2006-12-30 11:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by ♰ smooth sailing ♰ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this "boy" doesn't no which girl to choose. Do both of those two kids a favor and be the bigger person to get up and releave yoursel from this heartache and make it easier on him so he doesn't have to juggle between you two anymore. It's clear how much you love this "boy" because he obviously is no man from what you have shared. Forgive him once shamme on him, forgive him twice shame on you. Don't you just hate those third wheel girls that are hot one minute and loose the next? They hate seeing a normal functioning relationship so they try to ruin it. I hope you get over this "boy" because he is definitly not worth your time and tears. There is most difinitly a MAN out there who can and will treat you the way you should be treated with respect. Remember that through all the hardships and bumpy roads... life goes on.
2006-12-28 17:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by Liliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on! This guy is a waste of your time... and he is the classic PLAYER. He is living with her, she is expecting his baby... you don't want to be in the middle of that. He will probably cheat on her again... but have enough respect and pride for yourself to know that it wont be you! So again get out while you can. Could you imagine if you got pregnant by him too? Then what would you do.... 2 babies - 2 women and 1 boy with no respect or control.
2006-12-28 17:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is obviously taking advantage of your trusting nature. The fact of the matter is, he has lied to you- more than once. You deserve better. I know it is easier said than done but you need to move on and take some time for yourself, then find someone that loves and respects you! If he truly loved you he would not be treating you the way he is.
2006-12-28 17:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a lot of drama, is it really worth it?? Analyze it, you might deserve a lot better, and in the long run, be glad that you left a guy that didn't treat you right, I know 4 years is a long time, but people change, and maybe he isn't the one
2006-12-28 17:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in second chances you already been there and done that and hen some. move on and be happy. Bad as it might feel now, down the road you will know it was the best thing for you to walk away from this clown.
CLEARLY not going to change and you know it. You know him better than we do and we know he's not going to change.
2006-12-28 17:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by Crabby Patty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's already cheated on you so you already know he's capeable of it. He's already lied to you so you know he doesn't care to do it again. And he's living with this girl who obviously thinks that they are in a relationship and he gets mad at you for ratting him out. So, obviously he's with that chick and using you. So the best thing to do is cut him out of your life and the next time he contacts you just tell him that he's not going to use you as a safety net and you aren't going to put up with his drama.
2006-12-28 17:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anime Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, there are like 4 billion men on this planet. He is a total jerk. There are millions of men who would love to make you the happiest woman in the world, you just got to find them, it is obviously not him. No matter how many times he "turns back" or whatever, he has proven himself unworthy
2006-12-28 17:09:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a complicating situation!!!you really love him or you had left him long ago.what I think is that you shoud make a deadline for him to prove that he really loves you.tell him he must do what ever you say or you will leave him.think about your relationship logically not emotionally for a few days and analyze his behaviors.if he changed well...but if he didn't its your job to make a serious decision.good luck honey
2006-12-28 17:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by kiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋