How do I handle a sister in law who you don't like. I am polite as she is married to my brother but she has been rude to me many times, We don't have much to say to each other, maybe a personality clash? Help please?
2006-12-28 17:00:39 · 20 answers · asked by m m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to her and ask why she's rude to you. If there's any resentment on her part, then settle that 100% with her and apologize if you're wrong. Sometimes we do things that hurt others without realizing that at all. If that doesn't change the situation, tell your husband to tell her husband abt her attitude. Let the husband talk to her as husband and wife. Don't be so close to her to avoid more conflict. Just be polite to her like a family.
2006-12-28 17:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by bogey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit down with her and find out why she is rude to you. Even when you are polite you may still be reflecting your feelings that you have towards her in other ways. She may have overheard you and yes it could be a personality clash but it if you want to have family peace then you will need to sit down and talk to her. Find out everything, her likes and dislikes. If you still can not work it out then I would say to talk to your brother and see what he can do to help.
Avoidance is the last thing you should do.
Prayers are here for you.
2006-12-29 01:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i also have a sister in law that i don't like. i've tried many times to let her into my life and she always does something bad to me so, no more. i avoid her and when i do see her i say hi and maybe a little polite conversation and that's it. she's not worth the time of day to me but at least i can honestly say that i tried.
2006-12-29 16:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by inluvwithb 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling
Prayer, Time and more Prayer.
Just keep loving your brother and dont talk bad or ill about her and her actions, keep it to yourself.
But you dont have to let her bring any harm on you and yours.
I have two sister in laws and a mother in law that try play with my emotions Keep your eyes and ears open and distance is good.
2006-12-29 01:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by hawleysangel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is jealous of anyone who has an emotional claim on her husband. She wants to be his sole source of comfort. Kind of like a cat pissing on places for territorial rites. She knows that brotherly attachment runs deep and she is jealous of it. An insecure person acts this way. A person who is secure and feels "safe" in a marriage, aka as a "normal person" does not act this way to other people expecially family members.
2006-12-29 01:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by myjamsandwich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So she's a moody *itch, so what. You married her brother, not her. Tell your brother about it...maybe she is always like that and even treated him like that. I'd just ignore her.....cross her off the Christmas card list. That should get the point across to her.
2006-12-29 01:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by jemulock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever happens, stay cordial. Usually there will be an event that forces a bond in these kinds of relationships.
If you act stupidly early, that event will have to be mutually tragic before the bond happens.
2006-12-29 01:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by khanofali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're doing the best you can. I have a similar situation. Just keep it polite and cordial. You don't have to be friends. Help your brother out, and take the high road. He'll appreciate it.
2006-12-29 01:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by kyletexas_123 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well when she is being rude to you . you point it out to her and tell her you don't deserve her rudeness and you certainly don't appreciate it at all . when you call her on it only then will she stop . other than this just ignore her. you don't haft to like her or she like you but for your brothers sake try to be nice to her but do not let her continue to be rude and get away with doing it to you.speak up to her about it.
2006-12-29 01:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i was like that with my sister in law but i got to know how= joking around asking her ?'s about her passed and we make fun of each other i guess if you try to make her laugh or ask your brother what she likes for a gift and get her it make a card that says (welcome to the family) she ''might'' change her mind about you
2006-12-29 01:10:11 · answer #10 · answered by ~sharmo~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋