never ever did, doesn't bother me much, am used to it. just concerned with him getting 'good' sleep. refuse to let him "cry it out" . any suggestions?
2006-12-28 17:00:07 · 8 answers · asked by janie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
if u r going to suggest to not listen to my babys' screams, please just don't answer. looking for educated answers. but thanks anyways!
2006-12-28 17:06:44 · update #1
he eats very well, and gets a lot of exersise. he is tired at bedtime, just wakes up every 1-2 hours looking for me for comfort. any gentle ways to help him sleep?
2006-12-28 17:08:25 · update #2
My daughter is ten and never "cried it out' and has slept throught the night for many many years. She is far more confident and independent than many girls her age and I never had to force her to learn to self soothe. I soothed her until she no longer had a biological need for parental support at night.
People are so ignorant around here about gentle parenting. grrr.
2006-12-28 17:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by Terrible Threes 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am with you on not letting a baby cry it out it is cruel and to those who think its not I hope something tramatic happens to you and nobody is there for you that's how it is for them ya they fall asleep aventually but only from excuation and yes they do aventually not even cry any more why should they when they know that the one person who is there for them won't be there at night. If I was you I would get a book called The no-cry sleep solution by Elizabeth Pantley I Have a 14 month old who is also not sleeping through the night and I just picked the book up a few days ago so havent put the methods into affect but they look like they would work. Take care and hope this helped
2006-12-29 02:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by Tinkerbell S 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would recommend a white noise machine. Or sounds of the womb. Something rhythmic but with no music or pauses. (Like a fan, washing machine, vaccuum...you get the point). Then, put this on in his room. Sit with him until he falls asleep and bring a soft blanky with you everytime you do this. By bringing the blanky every time, you are creating a habit. Then, place the soft blanky in his hands and sit by the crib or on edge of bed. When he drifts off, quietly leave the room but leave white noise on all night. Hopefully, the comfort of the blanky with take the place of you and the white noise will mask any disturbances he may here through out the night. If this continues, it could be a case of severe separation anxiety. My daughter had this as a baby and still does at 6 years old. I let her drop where ever she does. As long as she isn't raising hell, I let her stay up. I know I know. Not the best thing to do but nothing worked with her. She eventually does fall asleep and sleeps through the night but it is one her terms and when her body is ready.
Try the blanky thing though because trust me a 6 year old up at 11pm-12am raises lots of eyebrows and it makes for a real tired depressed mom.
2006-12-29 01:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
believe it or not even public health told us this, letting them cry themselves out actually is a self soothing technique, we do it with our son unless something is really wrong, one of us will check on him first to make sure he is okay. If he doesn't learn some sort of self soothing he won't be able to get back to sleep any easier as he gets older. Are you going to be running in and out all night when he is 5, how about 10 or even 15. All I can say is to give it a try. I still feel bad about it sometimes if he is really crying hard, usually it is when he is overtired, but once he gets back to sleep he is fine for the rest of the month.
I was also told by my dr that they will start waking through the night if they are nearing a milestone like crawling or walking, though I am sure at 16 months your son is already doing both.
2006-12-29 01:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
if you wont let him "cry it out" your going to be dealing with this for a long long time... it doesnt have to be as cruel as you make it sound... but they need to learn independence at some point, and that includes learning to put themselves to sleep.
Listening to your child cry, is a part of your childs life. All babies cry at some point! The most educated pediatricians and sleep experts in the WORLD are the people who came up with the "cry it out" method. Which, coincidently.. can be done without the child crying. If its done properly.. you wait outside the childs door, and go into the room any time they do start to cry, and comfort them. Usually every 3-5 minutes, until they fall asleep. They do not feel abandoned, because you are there the whole time. I sat in a rocking chair, out of my child sight, but still in their room.. and when they learned that crying wasnt going to get them what they wanted.. they went to sleep. Hey, its your life.. see you on Nanny 911 in a year.
2006-12-29 01:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by Kristin B 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well if you refuse to let him cry it out he will never sleep all night. Be prepared to have a 5 year old up in the middle of the night...not good for when he starts school. He won't be well rested and could wind up having problems in school as a result. But you don't want him to "cry it out" so ...oh well.
2006-12-29 01:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree with many of the answers posted you HAVE to let him cry it out my son is 16months old and he sleeps from 7pm to 7am. As a mother you know your childs cry if it sounds like he needs you then check on him. But it seems like you posted a question you really didnt want the answer to. As a first time mom I was paranoid about letting him cry I felt horrible but after I peeked in on him and saw he was giving me the fake cry I stopped feeling bad.
2006-12-29 01:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by cvegas229 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Maybe feeding him a little bit more. Or maybe warm milk before bed. Or take him out to the park or something to wear him out during the day. Only things I could think of.
2006-12-29 01:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by jade_143 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋