I am an Indian and I am in love with a westerner. All my family are against it as they think I should protect Indian culture and traditions and not lose it by marrying a foreigner. But the person I love is very open minded and has no problems in me following my culture and traditions. My family does not believe this is possible and they prefer me leaving him. I do not want to let my family down and marry without their consent. At the same time, I do not want to forgo my love and do arranged marriage. Any way out ?
2006-12-28 16:45:14 · 8 answers · asked by quest_ansi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you marry outside your culture, you will forgo some of your customs because of your marriage, however, some of your customs will grow in importance because your spouse will enjoy them and participate in those customs.
You will never fully lose your culture but it WILL evolve with your marriage.
2006-12-28 16:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before marrying this person, be sure that you are 100% comfortable with this person's personality. You cannot force a Westerner to become an Indian (and vice versa). Because I am a Westerner, I am biased in that I believe that a person should marry for love and that family consent is desirable but not necessary. Arranged marriage if it is forced saddens me. I have no problems with parents introducing a potential spouse, but they have no right to tell you that you must marry a certain person. What if the arranged spouse ends up being horrible and abusive? Will your parents be responsible? Be kind and respectful to your parents, but please don't let them ruin your life.
2006-12-28 17:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by Santa C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
looks like you can't have it both ways and your are eventually going to have to choose between the man you love and your parents and tradition. Only you know if you can make such a choice and live with the situation.
Your parents have a point you will be drawn more to western ways as you assimilate into your man's world. You will also be raising children in that world so you will basically be giving up much of your heritage and traditons. I don't want to see you in an arranged marriage either but only you know if you can stand up to your parents and fight for what you want. Fist be sure, so very sure, that this is the right man and that he is worth what you are going to loose and have to give up to be with him. Good Luck , you will need it
2006-12-28 18:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probable different. If the westerner follows Indian way of existence to an severe, does not he convert to Hinduism? yet gazing some Bollywood video clips at the same time as eating curry isn't an same as replacing to Hinduism.
2016-10-16 22:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your culture is very different from ours..I would find it hard to say ,it would be easy for him to follow your ways..I am not saying your ways are in any way bad..but so different..I would love to say marry him and see if it works..and perhaps this is what you should do,follow your heart,or you`ll never know,to me a prearranged marriages is a no way thing so i`d marry this guy and hope for the best..your family hopefully accepts it in time.good luck
2006-12-28 16:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my eyes the reson you family is having such a hard time with this is in your culture wemon have to submit to men so if you are fallowing your own culture you are not submitting. but i think that if you sit down with both f your parents and you man and discus how you lives are going to be they might be more open to it.
2006-12-28 23:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your future other half is the ONLY one you need to ask this question. Share your thoughts and get his.
2006-12-28 17:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by the Goddess Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not exactly will get a mix of cultures.
2006-12-28 16:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by 2007=great 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋