Low Self Esteem affecting my Relationship?

Question

I have been dating this girl for about a month and recently i have been feeling depressed and having a low self esteem. I've always had a low self esteem but its the worst its ever been. My problem is I feel my girlfriend can do better than me and that im holding her back or...ripping her off in a way. I think my main concern is my body size. She deserves to be with a guy who could protect her and fight for her if needed. I cant even defend my self. im verryyy skinny, she is bigger than me. The only reason i way more than her is because of my height. i weigh 117 and she weighs 110. thats horrible. And with that...i know that relationships dont last forever and she is gonna break up with me sooner or later even though she claims she loves me soooooo much. When she breaks up with me im gonna be crushed and never date a girl again. But this low self esteem is gonna affect any future relationships if i have any. can someone help me? and please dont say, "dont worry about it" because i will

okay, 1st thing is....i dont want to be a huge body builder so stop assuming i do. i just want to be average body weight. Right now, im an inch away from being able to wrap my hand around my arm. my wrists are tiny. i just want to be average like everyone else. and 2nd....in a way i do want her to break up with me because she deserves 10 times better. dont get me wrong, I love her to death and shes the greatest thing that has happend to me...

Answer 1

baby....low self esteem is a negative vibe...very bad. i am the same way with my man and he is with me sometimes. i am 5'9 175 and he is 6'2 174. sometimes i say he can do better....but he tells me he wants me and no one else....my man is a punk....but i dont care because i will kick an *** for him. stop being negative. because it affects everyone around you.

Answer 2

In only a month you couldnt make that sort of assessment.

You sound like one of these people who could do with having a life coach, therapist or even psychiatrist.

My advice to you is look hard for solutions and put a lot of effort into solving your problems.

From looking at your other questions you have asked it looks like you are generally in poor health(tongue/sweating) and you are also a bit thin and weak.

If I were you I would sign up for some weight traing and start eating more and better food.

Realy intensive, hard, physical exercise sounds like a very good solution to many of the problems you have. It will help with your tongue, sweating, low weight, poor strength and self esteem.

Train like you never thought it was possible to train. I did and I lost 30 kilos. I went from being obese to an incredible athlete and attracting the attention of women who wouldnt give me the time of day before and it helped not only my health but my self esteem and confidence.

Answer 3

Yes with your low self esteem, you won't be able to last in any relationships for that matter. When a girl loves a guy, it means she is already feeling safe and secure with him. And your girlfriend loves you sooo much right? So, believe in yourself. Protection and fighting for her, doesn't necessarily need to be physical. not everyone can be Bruce Lee or Mike Tyson. Providing the emotional support and being a good listening ear to her and providing sound advise and opinions are all the healthy signs of a reliable and secure partner. If you can do these for her, she is never gonna break up with you and you'll be so much more confident with her too. good luck!

Answer 4

So do something to raise your self-esteem. Start of with small goals and accomplish them. When you accomplish a goal. Feel proud. Keep making the goals harder. Your self-esteem has to come from you.

Don't worry about the girl. When you become confident you'll find there are lots of women out there. They make up 52% of the population. That means you've got an edge.

Eat something. Unless you're under 14 or 15, you should weigh more.

Answer 5

No matter how big there is always someone bigger. Walker Texas Ranger is only on tv. If you want to beef up you can get into a program to build up, but Self Esteem comes from learning to be happy with who you are, not so much changing yourself. Being a muscle man is high maintenance and you have to keep training as long as you want to maintain the muscles. Wait until your in your 50's then you'll be wondering how to keep the weight off.

Answer 6

Have a higher self-esteem. Weight has no bearing in a relationship. You will probably never need to protect her. Real life ain't like the movies. I've been married 7.5 years and never been in a fight to defend my wife or for any other reason for that matter.

Answer 7

well clearly she sees something about u she must like for her to be with u. are u wanting her to break up with u? sounds like it to me. sounds like u are trying to pull out all the negitive things so she will agree and break up with u just so u can say u were right.u are sabitoging urself. why not lift weights or join a fighting class to teach u things. if not for her.. for urself. u are clearly a great guy for her to be putting up with ur negitivity, but yes that is what will aventually doom ur relationship. not who u are but what u think u are. people want and need positive things and people in their lives, not people who are always gloomy. if she does stay with u for years how is that fair for her that u are limiting her life because u dont see good aspects of u.she does deserve better if u are going to continue this crap. she wants YOU and u dont beleive her. How will it crush u if she leaves u when u are the one pushing her away because of ur aditude. There is nothing wrong with u but ur aditude. Sounds to me like u dont want her. If so then stop this crap ur doing and start up lifting urself. ur better then that.

Answer 8

well if you have low self esteem it can inflict on the relationship because you'll be insecure causing doubts on your partner and the result will be you pushing them away from you. love yourself before someone else can love you :)

Answer 9

Ohhh..Please enjoy what you have! Body size is nothing compared to what is in the inside!! And for defending her? I'd say if she was being threatened, and it came down to it, your 117lbs would tear somebody up!! When it comes to the heart, size does not matter!
Good luck and be happy!! : )

Answer 10

Yes, my husband is only weight 99 pounds and i'm 127. Our relationships is too bad and i sometimes believe that i can break him. I'm thinking in separation or finish our marriage