What would you do?

Question

I love both of my daughters, but I am concerned for them both. My oldest is married and her husband fights with her sister all the time. My son-in law and my second daughter are both very rude to each other. recently my son in law actually attacked my 2nd daughter and was choking her. Their fighting is causing problems for my oldest daughter, and her new baby. I love them all and dont know what to do. I know that my 2nd child can be rude, but my son in law is rude also. My oldest daughter and grand child are stuck in the middle. My daughter and her husband love each other, and their child, but this whole thing is tearing my family apart. What should I do?

Answer 1

i suggest quit letting them hang out together.

Answer 2

seeing as i'm the oldest daughter in question, i know what's going on. there's nothing really that you can do except keep loving everyone and letting the two fighters know that you still care for them. yes, they are both rude to each other. and i don't know that counseling could help. the two would see each other and it would flare up again. they both provoke each other. and it's sad that they can't agree to a truce even just for church once a week. one side will agree to the truce and the other says no way. i fear the only solution is for my family (me, my husband and child) to move far away so the two fighters won't see each other anymore. but i think doing that is also kind of running away. the two need to work it out because it is hurting other people besides themselves. they're both being a bit selfish in that regard. they should be able to see by now that this hurts others too. they can't. they can't see past the naggings of the other. i'm wondering what to do as well. counseling is worth a try but then i'm afraid i'll have to leave.

Answer 3

first of all.. he should not be choking her. I dont care what she said or did to provoke it.. you dont choke another human being unless you have serious anger problems. He needs help controlling himself. secondly.. if she is purposely provoking him.. she needs help with her anger too, perhaps she is jealous.. or maybe she just genuinely doesnt like him.. either way, she shouldnt be causing fights, and he shouldnt be getting physical. This is beyond tough.. because your first daughter has a child with this man, she is obviously attatched to him and loves him very much, this is probably really rough on her. I dont know what you can do, although charges should have been pressed on your son in law for choking your daugher.

Answer 4

There is absolutely no reason for another person to actually choke another person, regardless how rude that person is. It's an assault, plain and simple. I'd be very worried for your married daughter. If her husband can't prevent himself from physically taking out his frustration on your second daughter, then he may severely abuse your first daughter.
No women deserves that kind of man. He may act sweet to you and that's probably why he's so "lovable", but for the sake of your daughters, he needs to be reported for domestic violence.

Answer 5

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