My 7 yr old daughter was chased by a boy with a mask on 2 months ago. She is so traumatized that she wont be alone anywhere ,anytime . She follows me everywhere .I talked to her and tried to convince her he wasnt chasing her he was just running. Nothing helps . She talks about it and writes stories about it too . Anyone with answers ?
2006-12-28 16:35:35 · 15 answers · asked by bluecapersea 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Has she ever gone trick-r-treating,for Halloween?Maybe you could let her dress up to scare away her fear.Does she have a special stuffed animal,or something that helps her feel safe?Check also at the Library for a childrens movie on handling your fears.I think Clifford-the big red dog,has one on fears.Maybe if you can watch it together it will help. Good Luck!
2006-12-28 16:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by stressed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your doing the right thing by talking to her. It will take some time for the clinging to end, but with time it should. A lot of things have to be taken into consideration. The child's past experiences and the general mental health of the child. Give it a few months and then if it doesn't improve it will be a good idea on professional help. Also as a mother I'm sure you know what is best for your child. Follow your instics they should be mostly right.
2006-12-28 16:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may take some time as she is only 7, and it may be a bit too soon for her to have recovered from this, as she was obviously traumatized by this. The fact that she talks about it and writes stories means that she is dealing with it, it is just going to take some time, so be patient with her, and yourself. Good Luck!
2006-12-28 16:45:56 · answer #3 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about this, she's only 7! When I was 14, My father caught a peeping tom outside my window. I was terrified! At night I'd go into my room close the blinds, check my closet and close it check under my bed and then close my bedroom door. I'm 28 now and it was only about 5 years ago that I finally been able to stay up late in the dark by myself. It's really something that she has to get over on her own. I still am very nervous in the dark I won't go outside by myself at night. I am getting better. She will be ok eventually!
2006-12-28 16:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by missjewl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may help.....a few months ago my son (7) and I were visiting my dad. My dad was playing a game on his computer and told my son to watch the screen real close there was something he had to see....my son pressed his little nose toward the monitor and out popped a saddistic looking vampire lady covered in blood. My dad thought it was funny but my son was traumatized. In fact, he was afraid to go home because he thought the vampire lady was chasing the car....
Real quick thinking, I asked my son to peek behind us and see if he saw her. While he was nervously checking over his shoulder, I drove my SUV up on someones railroad ties in there yard. I yelled out I "I got her I got her! I ran over the vampire lady." Of course it was dark so he couldn't visually see her in the street or anything but the bumpy feeling made it seem as if though I ran over someone and it eased his fears.
To this day he tells a tale of heroine, the day his mom slayed the vampire lady with her car!
Give it a try it may help.
2006-12-28 17:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you asked her what part of that scared her? Cuz if it was the mask maybe you know someone who has a mask so she can see its just rubber or what ever. At 7 she shouldn't be that terrifed still. I would take her to a counceler they are trained to deal with childrens issues. They could talk with her thru play therepy and help her work on it. Good luck !!
2006-12-28 17:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by mindy s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, how awful that this happened to her. I also have a 7 year old daughter, so I will try to give you the advice that I would use myself. I would try and get a couple masks and let her feel of them and look at them. This way she will know that they are not real. Maybe lead her in a prayer asking Jesus to protect her and to ease her fears and bring her peace. This will help her to know that there is some one greater looking out for her well being. Good luck, I hope this helps.
2006-12-28 16:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. SmartyPants 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry your daughter is going thru this. It sounds cruel but maybe if she were to see the mask again but with you holding it, and make it a silly game she may think it's not so scary coming from someone she trusts and loves. I'm not sure if it will help but when children are faced with their fears they learn that it's not so bad. Good luck have lot's of patience and lot's of tlc.
2006-12-28 16:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may seem silly to us adults, but it obviously really scared her and it sounds like she's dealing with post traumatic stress syndrome. (Especially since she elaborates and writes stories about it!)
She needs to get professional help. A trained therapist can help her get over her phobia and talk about what happened.
2006-12-28 19:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest she talk to someone other than you about it.. whether it be a school councelor or her doctor.. or a therapist. It might help for her to explain her feelings to someone else. It doesnt have to be a weekly thing.. and she likely will get over it after someone else explains to her that it was a silly thing.. and not a harmful thing.. but it could really help her to hear it from someone other than you, too.
2006-12-28 16:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by Kristin B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋