first, i really wanted to get along with different kind of guys.
second, I know that relationship grow when man and woman started to enjoy doing things together. E.g. sightseeing, watching movie, cooking, reading....together.
Unfortunately, I cant get along with males =( I dont know how to relax in front of them. This question may sound dumb to u but plz give me some advice. The reason of this is probably because: << while I was a kid, I had a very mean manner. I was greedy and inconsiderate. As a result, no one wanted to be my friends. No boys and no girls wanted to be my friends. Now I have grown up, I moved to another city. I changed a lot, and I began to be considerate and polite. I have friends now, and I am VERY happy about that. Still, the nice personality I have right now doesnt change my history. I dont have any experience with friends of males.
2006-12-28 16:27:43 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe u wanna know something ridiculous? Every time a nice male walked or stayed around me, I thought he was the one that I have been searching for and my heart started to race, and obviously that nice male walked away. Since what he saw is a robot-like girl. T.T
that's why I cant get along with males. lol because I don't have experience with em. I don't think I am going to get my soul mate if this keeps happening...
How do I change my mind on this thing? My behavior is utterly stupid. I wanted to change it so bad, but I cannot. Please help!!
2006-12-28 16:28:18 · update #1
no i am not lesbian
2006-12-28 16:31:36 · update #2
You sound like a lovely young woman with all kinds of romantic ideal... and romantic ideals are wonderful things! Make no mistake there. But in your case, I think they are putting a great deal of pressure on things for you. The fact is, anyone you meet could be that amazing wonderful person you've been hoping to meet, and that that first "hi" is opening a door to the rest of your life. It's also possible, and likely, that it's just a "hi." A chance for some casual conversation and a chance to maybe get to know someone else. For them to get to know you.
And that when you put that pressure of everything else, you diminish the chance of just meeting and getting to know someone (and thus, kind of sabotage any chance of anything more).
Be yourself and be willing to give of your time in meeting someone. Don't make anything more of it than a chance to meet someone and get to know something about them. And share something of yourself with them. If that initial exchange goes well, continue to share with each other. Worst case, you make a friend that is a guy! And in the best case, you get to dust off all those romantic ideals.
2006-12-28 16:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by Paul S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
before you start getting more serious with guys, try to make friends with them first so you get used to being around them and get to understand them better so that you can be more comfortable around the guys that you like
2006-12-28 16:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by jeannn. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're a lesbian.
2006-12-28 16:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by Busgy Lanksy 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋