would you keep it?

Question

what if you was a female or if you are a female and you had sex unprotected with your lover, than you two are having problems so you think that things aren't gonna work but you also think that you are pregnant, what would you do if you were?

Answer 1

Been there...done that.

We fought so much, I was ready to end it all. Then I found out I was pregnant. I stayed for the baby's sake, and almost lost it with all the fighting. That was 2 years ago.

Now, we've learned to let go of the hateful fights and keep our daughter's well being first and foremost. Everything is great, with few downs, and looking forward to the future as a family.

Best of luck and stay strong!

Answer 2

I was once in your shoes, 2 years ago to be exact. We had unprotected sex, i got pregnant, as soon as i told him he said that he wanted nothing to do with it and then we broke up. I kept battling with the decision, and i ended up having an abortion.

I just kept thinking that i didn't wanna bring a child into this world that wasn't going to know his dad, then i would think that for sure he would change his mind with time and come to terms and turn out to be a loving father. But then just the possibility that i wasn't going to be able to offer the best to this child made me come to the decision that i made. To tell you the truth i just think i was scared.

Let me tell you...I was fine right after, maybe even for the first year after that too, but soon after that thoughts of guilt came over me and i so wish i could go back in time and chosen to keep it. Now that i'm able to see things more clear, i know that even if the dad wouldn't come around i would've had the support of family and friends to help me get through the rough times.

All i'm saying is to really-really think about it. I know that now, if i was to get pregnant i would keep it no matter what, so i guess you could say that when it comes to myself i'm 100% anti abortion. But i also know that every situation is different and all i can tell you is to not make any impulsive decisions without really thinking about it and weighing out your options. And in the end, if you do end up having this baby just think that it will bring you so much joy.

Good luck and i hope i was able to help you out.

Answer 3

Probably put the baby up for adoption. Also, talk to your parents and the boyfriends parents. Pray for wisdom.

These things wouldn't happen if people would WAIT for sex until they are married!! Everything has consiquences emotionally, physically, and financially.

Someone I know has had to raise her two grandchildren and it's not fair when the grandparents are older and don't have the energy to take care and maybe raise a grandchild while the mother has to go to work.

Abortion is wrong. It should not be used for birth control because someone didn't think first.

Answer 4

IT'S NOT THE KIDS FAULT THAT YOU AND YOUR "LOVER" DECIDED TO HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX...WHAT YOU NEED TO REALIZE IS THAT THERE ARE CONCIQUENCES OF HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX AND THAT AN INNOCENT LIFE HAS NOW BEEN BROUGHT INTO THE WORLD AS AMISTAKE AND EVENTUALLY THAT WILL COME OUT...YOU REALLY HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO KEEP IT...ABORTION IS WRONG AND CAN INCREASE YOUR RISK OF GETTING BREAST CANCER...A LOT OF WOMEN EVEN GO INTO DEPRESSION..I HAD A FLING WITH A GUY A FEW MONTHS BAK AND NOW I AM ALONE, TWICE DIVORCED, AND PREGNANT WITH QUADS...I ALREADY HAVE 5 KIDS( ALL UNPLANNED0 BUT YOU DON'T SEE ME SAYING OH, WHAT SHOULD I DO???...I AM GETTING ON WITH MY LIFE AND MAKING THE BEST OF IT...YOU SHOULD TOO...GET THAT JERK OUT OF THE PICTURE...YOU AND THE KID R BETTE OFF ALONE....I HAVE ONE THING LEFT TO SAY...HARD TIMES PASS, ABORTION LASTS FOREVER.

Answer 5

Well it's a little to late to say alwys protect yourself, so I won't. Your baby has nothing to do with your not getting along. If you have created a child together your child has a right to be born and given a chance at life. You made the decision to be unprotected, make a decision to protect your unborn child.

Answer 6

I would keep the baby and encourage the father to be a part of its life. True enough it is your responsibility to choose a man that is truly the one before ya'll make child. But since things do happen, it's now your responsibility to let this child live. If you don't want to raise the child, then there are plenty of people that would love to adopt him/her, but you have to give this child life. It's not their fault.

Answer 7

keep it. my best friend had an abortion at 20... her boyfriend and her had just broken up when she found out she was pregnant. She regrets it every day of her life. Even if you cannot keep the baby.. there are adoption agencies to consider, as there are millions of familes out there who cant have kids and would love to adopt a baby. Marriages, Relationships.. they come and go, especially in the world we live in now... but your babies? They are your babies forever. That is a bond that cannot be broken

Answer 8

I would most definitely be keeping the baby, if indeed there IS a baby. It would be hard to be a single mom, but lots of women do it! You would love that baby SO MUCH more than you ever loved the guy you're with and it would be worth it in the end.

Good luck.

Answer 9

Adoption. It'll give a baby a good life, and it'll bring joy to many people's lives. This is something only you can decide though. If you think you can raise your child right, then do it. Just make sure you can do it right before you start to raise your child. If you are unsure, or don't think you can then I recommend adoption.

Answer 10

i would say that it all depends on how you feel about raising a child... if your unsure about this guy...then ask yourself if you could/would raise a baby on your own...b/c it may turn out that way...if hes a guy who would stick by your/his child..then by all means have it...you dont have to be in a relationship to raise a child with love...and you shouldnt expect him to want one just b.c your having a baby...so think about all of those things and then decide...but whatever you do im sure you'll be able to succeed so good luck ;0)