He's married but they are seperated for less than a year but not yet divorce. I just found it last 3 days ago and were 4 months now. He told me there's no way for them to reconcile and he also told me why their marriage end that way.Just thingking if they are only seperated for a few months am i to blame for putting a "period" in their relationship. They have no kids. and hes working on their divorce paper... (thats what he said) Love him so much but i dont want to ruin anything...
2006-12-28 16:25:17 · 8 answers · asked by anne 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ZETHER: they were seperated... about 6 months before we met each other... anyway thanks 4 ur answer:)
2006-12-28 17:06:24 · update #1
why do u even care whether he is separated or married or whatever if u love him?it takes 2 to tango, so if he still wanted to be with his previous woman he wouldn't be with u. so all the blame is on him anyway
2006-12-28 19:22:36 · answer #1 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they were seperated when you and he met you are not to blame for anything.
if he truly loved his wife and wanted to be with her then he would have fought harder to keep her and the marriage.
it sounds to me like he may be the cause or the instigator of the seperation and divorce. which while tragicf for his wife is good for you and him.
Just remember that when he gets bored with you he is likely to dump you and get a jonger more attractive model if he can.
i hope i'm wrong and everything works out for the best. just prepare yourself for that day that may never come when he tells you that it is over, at least if you are prepared it should hurt a little less and be easier to move on should you need to.
2006-12-29 00:33:02 · answer #2 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they were separated when you met him, then things had already gone wrong within the marriage and he probably wasn't going to go back to her anyway. You can't be to blame for their marriage ending if you didn't meet him until after he had left. I met my boyfriend when he was separated and living in his own place and we have been together for over 2 years now and he is working on his divorce and I am working on mine. Both our marriages were well and truly over when we met and neither of us were considering going back to our previous partners.
2006-12-29 03:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by eeore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you met him after they'd separated then don't worry, they split for a reason. Just be careful that he isn't rushing into another relationship on the rebound or you may get hurt!
Try not to rush things, have fun and see where it leads and most importantly - stop worrying!
2006-12-29 04:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not to blame, his decision to separate from his wife was made way before you guys got together.
I do think he should have been up front with you in the beginning though.
2006-12-29 03:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by Buffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he told you he was seperated then you are not to blame but id find out if he was telling you the truth and not just cheating on his wife
2006-12-29 01:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You rushed into a messy situation. If I were you, I would wait for him to divorce and then I'll see whether he is a worthy man to love. You sound very much in love and you are giving excuses to yourself, and it would be difficult for you to listen and appreciate the answers to your question.
2006-12-29 00:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by markos m 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what are you talking about?
if you got involved with him while they were married then yes, you are a homewrecker, simple as that
2006-12-29 00:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋