She died in a car accident and for some reason i find myself looking online at cemeteries, roadside memorials and wanting to know if she is around? is that normal grieving or is it something more?
2006-12-28 16:24:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my mom died five years ago after a long illness and I still miss her from time to time. different things will bring up memories, some good, some bad. having lost your mother sudden and unexpected like you did makes it hard since you may have had unresolved issues. my son lost his dad (my ex) after they had a fight and it was a long time before he got over it. thinking about it is okay, but don't dwell. she would have wanted you to get on with your life. what's going on in your life? something you wish she was around for? that's when I miss my mom most. I don't believe in ghosts, but I do believe in heaven. I hope your mother is there and will be glad to see you there too someday.
2006-12-28 18:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by haykat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it means that you are showing great grief about your loss. Even if you try to find your mom, you should know that she is always with you in your heart, mind, and soul. She will always be looking out for you during your life. She will be proud for all he great things you will achieve.Just lay off the searching of cemeteries and memorials. Just pray to God that you will always be safe and that nothing bad like this will ever happen to anyone in your family. May God Bless You! Happy Holidays and a Happy New Year!
2006-12-28 16:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear that. I think that you just haven't accepted the loss. Losing people we love is never easy and we never ever truly get over it. What you are going through is completely normal. You may or may not realize it at times, but sometimes your sub-conscience mind misses her and thinks of her very much even when you don't realize it at the moment. Then there are times that what is going on around us can remind us of are departed loved ones. For instance, a song can start playing on the radio and it reminds you of her which of course makes you miss her, and that is why you start thinking about her. Your mind begins to ponder about missing her and of course it will make you very sad. My condolences for the loss of your mother.
2006-12-28 16:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by DaUniQue1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I'd like to say how sorry I am for your loss. My heart goes out to you.
There is no "normal" for grieving. Everyone grieves in their own way, and in their own time. And grief manifests itself in all sorts of ways. You may always do that from time to time, because she will always be with you. She's right there, in your heart.
2006-12-28 16:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my mom lived with us and 1 day I went upstairs in 2004,to see if she was alright because she did not feel well,I found her dead..I still find myself going up the stairs looking for her.I miss her so.We did lots of things together,I believe we still want them here so we do these things with out realizing.
2006-12-29 01:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi sweetie of course its normal,you miss her terribly,I am so sorry for your loss.But be comforted to know your mother is very much around you and can see everything you do here on earth.The fixation on death shows you are still dealing with the trauma and fear of the situation,it is all normal.Try to release this from your heart and mind and embrace God whom loves you so much! Your mother wants you to enjoy life and live your purpose her greatest wish was not for you to focus on death but on the living.
2006-12-28 16:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a process of healing.. after a loved one dies we all wonder about afterlife and its existense, heaven, hell and ghosts, its all normal..My mom tries EVP to try to communicate with my brother. He died in a motorcycle accident in 2004 :(
2006-12-28 16:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by bossman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom died 4yrs ago as well, she told no one she was sick, and I get a call from her friend, a couple days later, after she's already cremated.......I know how your feeling believe me......I wonder all sorts of things myself, they say you can talk to them in your dreams, or they will come to you, yet, I never have either way, so I wonder why she hasn't tried to...?... guess we just have to go on, and function, and try to not let it hurt our heart so much.......I am sorry yours is.....sincerely......
2006-12-28 16:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, I'm VERY VERY VERY sorry, and very normal behavior. If you believe in spiritual things, you could try to talk to her.
2006-12-28 16:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by Tom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO THATS NORMAL
I HAD A SISTER THAT DIED
AND I WILL NEVER FORGET HER
2006-12-28 16:37:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋