Is the F-train gay?

Question

Is my boyfriend gay?
I met a wonderful man who seemed very interested in me at first. He sent me letters and we shared our hobies had sex about 6 times per day. Now we don't do anything, he's not interested in my hobbies or taking me to his hobbies and we only sleep with each other about once every 3 weeks. If I approach him at night he says he is tired. I'm sick of "making myself available" when he won't do the same for me. I'm very attractive and I dont' understand what's going on. I checked his internet and I want to ask: Is it gay for a guy to look at girls having anal sex and going down on a huge d**c? What about 2 watching two guys on one girl?

Answer 1

No, he's not gay... at least not according to the info you've provided.

Its NOT gay to watch girls taking it up the butt or taking on 2 guys. If there were no girls... then its "gay" and you can think that.

Maybe you stumbled on something he really wants (i.e. going through your backdoor) and is getting bored with just oral and vaginal sex. In general, if the guy isn't a religious prude, he's looking for someone that (as Howard Stern puts it) is a "3-Inputs" kinda girl, meaning they like performing vaginal, oral, and anal sex. How often he prefers non-vaginal, and which of those 2 other versions he prefers more, varies with each guy, but they still want "3-inputs" access.

If you already let him up your a**, then maybe the porn and lack of interest is a sign that the relationship outside of the bedroom has weakened. In the long run guys stay nice, affectionate, and remain sexually interested if the girl is great out of bed too, with a nice personality, fun to be with, mutual interest, is cool with "just hanging out doing nothing", and doesn't make him feel like crap.

Relationships are always "hot-&-heavy" in the beginning. Things are exciting and fansinating when you're discovering things about someone new. Most times, both men and women show interest in each other's hobbies, in order to get a deeper understanding of the other person, but may not be interested in doing those things regularly in the long run. If the person (male or female) isn't really into their partner's hobbies and interest, then they will stop doing it after a while. They only thing anyone can do in that situation is try to accept the fact that the other person has different interest.

Couples should to things together, but NOT EVERTHING together. Mutual interest and hobbies are important in keeping a relationship strong, but doing EVERYTHING together can come across as smothering and controlling. He should be doing at least some stuff with you (seeing movies, play games, watch TV together, window shopping, etc.) and if you're not doing ANYTHING together it's a sign he's lost interest and thinking about quiting the relationship.

The fact that your down to roughly 1% of your original sexual activity is an even stronger sign things are not going to last, normal healthy guys that are in a loving relationship should want to have sex with their girl AT LEAST ONCE A DAY. This lack of sexual interest MIGHT BE a sign (I'm not saying its definate) that he's cheating with someone else.

My advice, talk with him. Have a serious and long discussion to find out what's going on. Then both of you should talk about whether or not the relationship should still continue. Things will either get better, or the relationship will end and you can move on to someone that wants to do stuff with you... in addition to sex 6 times a day.

Answer 2

That doesnt mean he's gay....he might want to step up the sex a little bit. Try some spontaneous stuff. Give him head while he drives....wear a skirt with no panties and tease him....rub on his dick at the movies....have sex in places where you might get caught....that can spice up a relationship....believe me...he aint gay...watch some porn movies with him.

Answer 3

uh... he is using you for sex. how blind can you be? does it make you happy when a guy uses you like a tool? he's getting borded with you and he'll find a new toy soon. i'm not going to tell you what you should do, that's your choice. but i will tell you, if he was gay, he wouldn't have sex with you in the first place. he's losing interest.
i'm sorry for you, your going down a sad and lonely path. guys will use you, then toss you aside like garbege. if a guy cant respect you enough to wait untill your relastionship is more about the physical, then he isn't worth it to begin with. and i'm so sorry for you that you cant see that.

Answer 4

he just likes porn, the activity/gender that the person likes to watch doesn't make someone straight or gay. btw why did you look at his internet??? maybe he just is losing interest... you need to tell him how you feel and not try to explain his behavior based on invading his privacy. that's just what i get from reading this is that you need maybe give him space and he'll give you more attention.

Answer 5

Um... Interesting question. Im not sure its gay. But I think the fact that he does that is kinda weird. Try watching it with him. But dont force it on him. Guys hate that. But Im no expert.

Answer 6

It seems he is a normal man but not in love with you.

men can do sex without love but it will not durate for a long time.

clarify it with your partner if he really loves you or not. it is possible he is with you just because you are over there.

do not check him, his mail box or else. it is not moral. help him to be honest with you. for this, there is just one way: provide him choices to want you or not, to love you or not. etc..

Answer 7

o.0

Answer 8

not gay, he just has some fantasies that he don't talk to you about, maybe he has some self esteem isuess to work through

Answer 9

it sounds like he's just burned out. if you werent exaggerating, 6 times a day would prooobably be enough to burn anyone out.

Answer 10

Well, it's possible....there's nothing gay about that in itself, but if he's looking at pornography, then he's horny....and if he's horny, but declining sex, then I wonder.....