I deeply love him, I felt as though he was my soulmate, but now I'm unsure of everything. We had so many plans and hopes and dreams for the future. Marriage, family, everything. What do I do now?
2006-12-28 16:01:34 · 25 answers · asked by Laur's Buttercup 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you KNOW for a fact that you can move on & forgive this guy then go ahead, stay with him. Speaking from experience, I went out with my guy for 4 years & now have been married for nearly 11 years. I found out while we were still going out (about 18 months into the relationship) that he cheated on me with a complete stranger (just kissing).
At the time, I decided to stay with him, but you know what? I've never forgotten, and I know that it has hurt our relationship even to this day. I've never given him back my full trust & respect.
It's hard, think very carefully about the long road ahead.
2006-12-28 16:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by funkychick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, talk to him about it. ask him, does he think he deserves ur love and devotion? can he still promise to u all the things u planned together? will he cheat again? if he says no, he is not worth it and move on. if he says yes, that doesnt mean he is 100% honest. think abot it, which wud u regret the most, moving on? or giving him a second chance? i kno its hard, but you'll get through. if u decide to forgiv him, giv him a few months to make sure he is loyal n so he can regain ur trust. i hope everything worx out for u
2006-12-29 00:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by Fallen Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive him and move on, never bring it up again... But right now you need to make him realize that he can lose something great, put a great scare in his eyes and just when he has thought he lost you, you reel him back in and start over from scratch..That's what I did.. I cheated on my husband and he forgave me... People make mistakes and are tempted to do stupid things..If you really love him, then give him another chance... If he does it again then dump his ***... Tell him he has lost all trust and that it is going to take a long time to rebuild that trust... good luck
2006-12-29 00:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by happy2BAlive!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its over....sorry.
but women play games too. My LTR of 5 years pulled this without cheating, so go figure.
May June left messages on my cell phone that she loved me.
Half of June into July got in fight, didn't talk to each other for a month
July 13 came out to Colorado went out to dinner
July 14 came home from work she had moved out
August told me to "meet new people, because she was" and having fun
Sept told me that was a mistake and she needed some time to think
Oct told me that she needed some time away, came out to Colorado asked me to come to dinner, but made sure I understood that we were not a couple or dating, I declined.
Dec wished me a happy B-day, talked for over 2 hours, she told me she had been in a 3 month depression, just working minimum shifts and drinking everyday. That she was not happy in California.
Dec-mid Dec Asked me "what would you say if I said lets get back together?" I said that would be good because I still love her. We talked about her needs and wants.
Dec-late Dec wished me Merry Christmas. Said we weren't getting back together, but just are thinking about it. She didn't want me to date other people. I told her to leave me alone, that she manipulates my life.
2006-12-29 00:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should always forgive to not be hurting. Weather you stay with him only if you can forget. If its something that will be on your mind all the time your with him then move on. Sometimes time is the best counselor and medicine to the heart. Always keep in mind if he did it once he may fall again with the same temptation.
2006-12-29 00:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by PINK 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without trust you do not have a good relationship>>move on <
2006-12-29 00:11:50
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Well it depends....how many times have he cheated and how many people have he cheated with. Temptation is a *****. If it was a one and only time....give him a second chance....forgive and forget....you know he might have an excuse. Just listen first. Also see his reason for cheating. If it's someone you know....kick his *** to the curb. Show him that he took you for granted.
2006-12-29 00:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by vixendreamz4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Soul mates only happen in the movies. After four years ,if he cheats on you ,it's time to move on. There will be other guys out ther who will treat you right ,don't let this one guy ruin life for you!
2006-12-29 00:06:04 · answer #8 · answered by mopjky 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How long ago did he cheat? Did he tell you, or did you just "find out"?
Your relationship can recover from infidelity, but it has to be an honest effort for both of you. There are so many situations like this out there, you're bound to find resources to help you if that's what you want. I suggest councelling.
2006-12-29 00:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear it but you need to move on. You will feel better when you are with someone who doesn't cheat on you... and you will find some one new, it just takes some time
2006-12-29 00:07:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋