I've been staying with my brother for about a week due to financial problems. Now that payday's come, should I offer him money to thank him (he's pretty well off)? If not, how can I show my appreciation?
2006-12-28 16:00:44 · 20 answers · asked by mathew j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Make sure that you help out around the house: set the table for dinner, help do the dishes, take out the garbage, etc. Also, if you want to give him money; find a nice thank you card and tell him how much you appreciate him letting you stay with him until you can get on your feet. Also, make sure that you are actively looking for another place to live/stay when you can afford it. It's a great idea to get him a gift card to his favorite restaurant.
2006-12-28 16:06:59 · answer #1 · answered by tiny_tim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dearest Room mate,
Its wonderful that you want to thank him, and yes you should offer to pay something for staying there. He probably will decline, and if he does say thank you. I think perhaps a gift to thank him. Has he spoke of something he would like to have ? Or another thought is replace all the food you have eaten the soap you have used etc. etc. Just make sure you replace it with the same brand, and don't make a big deal out of it , just purchase it and put it away and act like nothing happened.If you can afford it do both. A nice touch would be to wrap the gift. If you have trouble thinking of something as a gift, you might ask one of his friends. Nothing to expensive as he would most likely like for you to save your money and get your own place.
I hope this helps, and good luck
David
2006-12-29 00:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by FREE4ALL8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres a medaphor ive heard a few times, "give billionare 1,000$ he gets a little richer and puts it in the bank. Give a billionare a watch or something setimental he wears it and looks at it every day in appreatition." all in all rich get richer either way but if you give them somthing from the heart thats specail on its own. Like a child if a child gives you 2.50$ for a box of maceronni, some glue and a paper plate that isn't as much satasifiing as a child giving you something that child made and put time into. badly glued or wutever it still comes fromthe heart that is the best currency in the world
2006-12-29 00:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! i don;t think you should give him money first of all b/c he knows you have financial problems ( It wouldn't be right) and secondly giving money in appreciation is not such a great idea. if i were you, i would thank him a lot ( maybe a letter or something and i would buy him a little gift) like some flowers or a cake....something and tell him how thankful you are....
2006-12-29 00:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always a good idea to offer money for payment of your portion. If you feel that he would be insulted then offer your payment in trade. Mow the lawn, shovel the snow Wash his car, clean the house etc. Giving of your time to give him more time is always greatly appreciated. I know this because my husbands niece has lived with us for two years for free and it is great to come home to a clean house or dinner in the oven. I hope this answer your question.
2006-12-29 00:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by nikki9doors66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might ask him how much you owe him, and if he says nothing , then go and buy something nice for the house, or help replace some of the food or drinks that you used up.. try to do a little something.. If you are going to continue to be there for a while go and buy some groceries, that always helps out..
2006-12-29 00:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by nannyj37 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's insulting. I would not be offended. On the other hand, if I were well off then I would probably not accept it, but still appreciate the offer.
2006-12-29 00:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by whattheflp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be okay to offer a small some as part of paying for your stay, like food cost or something like that. I don't see how that would be unreasonable. I would expcet to do something like that if I was "in your shoes" per say.
I think that he would see it as a nice jesture. Have a good day.
2006-12-29 00:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by Jarod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely offer him something. A gift card to a his favorite restaurant, or pitch in for groceries or something. If you don't offer something, you may overstay your welcome quite quickly.
As a matter of fact, don't just "offer", see that you do "give" something. Any little bit helps and makes the host feel needed and appreciated. That way, if you ever need a place to lay your head again, he will probably oblige.
2006-12-29 00:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by CricketB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not insulting really. You can give him money to thank him, or if you prefer, you could buy him a gift, or offer to buy dinner or something.
2006-12-29 00:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by taskr36 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋