I HAVE BEEN LIKING THIS BOY FOR A LONG TIME AND MY FRIEND IS NOW GOING OUT WITH HIM HIS FRIENDS TOLD ME HE LIKES ME AND HE TOLD ME HE WAS JUST USING HER TO MAKE ME JEALOUS I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO DO I TELL HER OR JUST KEEP LIVING MY LIFE?
2006-12-28 15:41:26 · 19 answers · asked by sexy l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her, then keep living your life. She is most likely not to believe you at first. But ditch the guy. He will ruin both of you! Stay true to your friend, she'll come around eventually. And if not, at least you did your part. The truth will come out, and she will see him for what he really is.
2006-12-28 15:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anestyalaska♦ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Privately tell the guy that you have liked him for a long time. I would not recommend telling your friend that the guy is just using her to make you jealous, that would hurt your friend, as well as ending a friendship. After you let the guy know that you are interested in him, then see what he does. A note of caution, liking the attention that the guy is getting, if you tell the guy that you like him, he could turn it around, and tell your friend about your conversation with him...........so after thinking this out, I would just go ahead with your life. Some guys have big egos and to know that two girls like him, especially if the 2 girls are friends, could really boost his ego. If you know the guy really, really well, and could trust him with just about anything, then it would be your call as to whether or not you should tell him that you have liked him for a long time. I would not tell his friends, unless, of course, you completely trust them also. Using someone is not the act of a really great personality, your friend, whichever way it goes, stands to get hurt.
2006-12-28 15:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by alwaysdreaming 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the most important thing in both a friendship and a dating relationship. You should tell her.
But be warned: She will most likely not want to believe you, and it is very possible she will get mad at you. Still, she will at some point realize you were right, and come back and thank you for trying to warn her.
On a side note: Do not date that boy! If he is the kind that would use a girl to make another girl jealous, then you do not want any part of him!
2006-12-28 15:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by Chip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep living your life. If he is using her, he will drop her eventually and then you can move in on him after a decent amount of time has passed if you simply must have him. Chances are, your friendship with the girl is more valuable than a boy, especially one who uses your friends to make you jealous. I mean, come on?? Do you really want a guy who would do that???
2006-12-28 15:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by KGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all did your friend know that you liked him? And are you and your friend real close that y'all can talk bout anything? I think that maybe it just depends on how close you and your friend is. If y'all are really close then I don't think you should tell her. Because it might hurt her feelings. But if not and you think that he is a good man for you and your friend wouldn't care then tell her.
2006-12-28 15:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by Shajazz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seriously need to tell her.
He sounds like a total douchebag.
Just sit her down & tell her everything you know. She may not believe you & think you're just trying to ruin things, & if that happens..don't fight it..tell her you did your part..but she'll have to learn the hard way.
Only thing you can do is talk to her, it's not right to leave her in the dark like that.
2006-12-28 15:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no purpose for you asking this question. Your only looking for permission to do what you want to do. You already know what you want to do. Think about this though. Will that be the best thing for you to do? Is that going to cause a conflict? You might want to think of all the possible outcomes before you act. It won't hurt to wait.
2006-12-28 15:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by Imperialdefence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt go out with a friends guy cause even if she says its ok, sooner or later shes going to get mad and maybe stop talking to you for a while, been there and done that in both directions with lots of different friends, tell her that you have a crush on him but tell her you dont want to date him cause you dont want to ruin a friendship good luck
2006-12-28 15:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by <3 mykiddos,mylife <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. You shouldn't want to be with someone that says he is using your friend to make you jealous. Set higher standards for yourself. Be a good friend and don't betray her.
2006-12-28 15:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dono, if you told her she might do the whole cliche thing of blaming you for being jealous, its a tough call. take in account how well of friends you are, if its insignificant then do what you do. otherwise, i dont know what to really tell you im sorry.
2006-12-28 15:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋