shouldnt a child be entitled to at least some privacy? i have none whatsoever. like, not even a tiny bit. i dont even have anywhere i can go for space. not my own room. i cant organize my own stuff, everythig has to be moms way, even though its my stuff. i cant have a diary without it being read. i feel like they don't even care about how i feel. i am my own individual too. i feel so invaded, and theyve lost all my trust.
2006-12-28 15:37:40 · 9 answers · asked by kristen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi Kristen,
Yes, you should be able to have some privacy. I don't know how old you are-but I'm thinking early teen? Anyway, Sounds like your Mom has some control issues? Do other people feel this way--or is it just you? If you could step out of the situation and look at it objectively-what would you think?
Unless your mom makes a big change in this area, you will probably have to deal with it for a few more years. That will be tough.
My only advice is for you. You can't change other people, but you can control your behavior.
1. Try not to take it personally-she probably would do this no matter what.
2. Decide how you want to spend the next few years at home. Do you want to battle over privacy or would you rather relax your need for space to maintain peace.
3. Think of some constructive ways to help you deal with this problem. Maybe you can keep some personal items at school in your locker or at a friends house?
Best of luck and I hope I helped some!
2006-12-28 15:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by kyletexas_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are at such a rough age. Sorry to say the world is a much scary place now than it was when I was your age, all I had to worry about was out-running the dinosaurs!!!! My question ,and you would have to ask your Mom about this is what is she so afraid of ? Do you tell her what is going on in your life without her having to get out the water tourer devices ??? Are your grades OK? Are your Friends people she thinks will drag you down? Do you let her know where your going and when you'll get back??? Or is this about her holding on to the last bit of control that she has ??? If it's about control,sorry ,she still pays the bills,so you re stuck, if it's about something she is afraid of-you getting involved with something that will hurt you,maybe she can be reasoned with.,maybe if you told her a little about what is going on in your life,then she wouldn't feel the need to get into your space as much.as for you trusting your parents to keep out of your space,you are probably right they won't. Don't keep a diary,it will only get you in trouble when your kids find it.
2006-12-29 00:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by blondecarpenter@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you deserve a space of your own. My Mom always left our room alone and never went snooping. We had to keep it clean but that was all bed made no clothes on floor. She had a mother that snooped and even got rid of toys of hers so hence she never did that to us. Did you do something that makes them snoop? If not then you need a secret place you can go to that is your own a bike ride away etc? I think you should repeat the last line to them as how you feel. "Mom & Dad I feel like you don't even care about how i feel. i am my own individual too. i feel so invaded, and you've lost all my trust. I need some privacy just as much as you do"
2006-12-29 11:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow girl it really sucks to be you right now, but how old are you? Unfortunately all parents do that, and if they didn't, they don't care. Look at the world, kids are doing drugs, getting pregnant in an earlier age, it sounds like the are protecting you. Try proving to them that you are responsible, and maybe you see a little privacy.
2006-12-28 23:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by cassie05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need to have your own space/freedom!! It's crazy that you can't get away from everyone and have your own time!! How are you suppose be mature. Maybe you could talk to your parents about letting you have a certain time of the day where you get to be by yourself completly away from everyone else. See how that works for you.
2006-12-28 23:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by Amber M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every child needs their own space, but it should not be abused. You said that your mom reads your diary? why does she not trust you? Have to sat down and talked to her about this subject? Let her know how you feel.
2006-12-28 23:47:15 · answer #6 · answered by chrmed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to share your room then maybe your parents don't have enough money to get a bigger place.
I'm sure they do love you, but being a Teen can be a difficult time.
Just let things cool down then try to talk to your Mother and tell her how you feel. I know that can be tough, my Mom is imposable.
Good Luck, but remember they really do love you.
2006-12-28 23:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by Bridget 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were they next to u 2 when u writing this cuz if they werent think about it u had ur space rite now get over it wen u turn 18 just leave ur house n if not just go 2 the military
2006-12-28 23:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by jaslyndaunstoppablepimpett 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sure you need space, so tell your mum that, though you need to say it kindly. tell her that there are some stuff that you will be ok with if it is done her way, but others like(mention what you want to be private) and tell her that you appreciate her being your mum.
2006-12-28 23:43:59 · answer #9 · answered by ωнєη уσυ ѕмιℓє уσυ мαкє мє ѕмιℓє 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋