Yesterday I found out that my Dad and Stepmom are moving to Virginia. My dad got a good job that he needed. They are moving next summer. I am staying with my mom in Louisiana but my sister is going to Virginia. I want to go too but I would be soooo absolutely miserable without my mom. My sister likes sports and there will be better opportunities in VA. We are really really close. My sister is my closest friend. Im 16 and she's 14. Help me stop grieving...........................It seems impossible
2006-12-28 15:28:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe you could go stay for the summer with your Dad & Sister and the rest of the time with your Mom.
Turn it into a great opertiunity for yourself. I'm sure your Mom won't mind if you go for a few months.
Also pray about it, the Lord will help you do the right thing and comfort you too.
Good Luck sweetie !
2006-12-28 15:45:32 · answer #1 · answered by Bridget 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that your sister has made the best decision for her, and you need to make the best decision for yourself. You are the only person that can decide if this is best for you, and if it is, make the situation work for you. Discuss with your sister how the two of you will stay in close contact. You can plan nightly emails or IMs, plan weekly phone calls, and plan a designated time that the two of you will see one another.
Being that you are 16, this may be an excellent opportunity for you. You should explore what hobbies you are interested in and go out and make new friends. I know that your heart will hurt because of the distance between you and your sister, but don't spend all your time feeling sad. Make time to do things for yourself and make time to do things with your mom. You will most likely find that in no time your schedule will be full and the pain of your sister moving will improve.
2006-12-28 15:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by blue_seahorse 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Granted it's a tough situation. But it's not the end of there world. With all the communication equipment we have now ,you can stay in touch in a variety of ways.
One other thing to think of is that,at 16,you may be off to college in a couple of years. Maybe you can plan now to go to a school closer to where your sister will be. Keeping busy doing all this will make the time pass quickly and you won;t have time to grieve.
2006-12-28 15:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by mopjky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry sweet pea. You just lost two of out of three of the most important people in your life. Well the only thing is to find a way to ensure you have them in everyway but physical. So you make time set it aside. Call your dad and sister as often as you want. Literally set the time aside and donot tell yourself that you should not call you just talked to them yesturday or anything. Then also email, IM. Text message. During lunch at school take five minutes to write a letter or text message. If you do this it will help. Send cards real ones with pictures in them. Have pictures sent to you as well. If you have a digital camera have a pic of you taken every day and send it via email and ask for one as well. Evenutally it will heal and you will soon feel better inside.It will take time and be gentle with yourself. Ask your mom for lots of love and hugs.
2006-12-28 15:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you are a lucky one, having a close relationship both with your Mom and your sis. You are 16, you will be on your on, soon, staying with your Mom, whom you feel close to is great. When you are 18, out of high school, you could visit both places. Having a close relationship with your sister will last a life-time, that is a special relationship. After high school, you might decide to join your sis in VA. Visiting on vacations, calling daily, writing letters, emailing, sending pix, keeping as close as your possibly can to your sis, until you can be nearer to her one day, will help. I think it is mature of you to realize that you would be miserable w/o your Mom, yet letting your sis go, is a sacrifice, but knowing that she would have better opportunities in VA, is also very mature. Cherish every moment you are with her.
2006-12-28 15:40:35 · answer #5 · answered by alwaysdreaming 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy answer on this one.... that's the problem with separation.... but, remenber... there is more ways to keep in contact nowadays, the internet, cheaper long distance plan, so, you can still stay in contact with your sister... and if you're dad is getting a better job, you maybe able to go visit more often... soo.. don't be sad... be glad for you're dad... and keep close contact with your sister with different ways on communications... i know it's not the same, but at least, you'll have a long distance friendship...
2006-12-28 15:34:52 · answer #6 · answered by Max C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can still talk on the phone, email and visit each other in the summer time and holidays. Be glad it will only be a short distance that separates you from your sister and not the vastness of death or estrangement. I've lost a sister and both parents to death and wish we were only separated by travel and not eternity.
2006-12-28 15:37:06 · answer #7 · answered by RUDOLPH M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to write in a journal everyday. Write down the things that give you anxiety, pleasure, relief, and joy.
Oprah said you need to write down a list of all the things you are truly thankful for.
Indicate to each of your loved ones how much they mean to you, and tell them you will miss them.
Plan to visit in the next few weeks, and return to your Mother, and share with her how you feel.
Love is the answer!
2006-12-28 15:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by Lion J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you have to give yourself time to grieve otherwise you will stuff it then one day start crying again, better cry now that she is there then when time comes for them to go you will have strength to bid her good bye hoping to see her soon, there is no stoping you, cry out loud then all those feelings will go
2006-12-28 15:32:26 · answer #9 · answered by ωнєη уσυ ѕмιℓє уσυ мαкє мє ѕмιℓє 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no one can do that for you but you. just grieve it, except what is out of your controll, and move on. they ARE your family after all, so you will stay in touch.
2006-12-28 15:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by kiss the cook 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋