whats more appropriate for a cpl entering a 2nd marriage in their late 30's ..a court house or a big wedding?

Question

i am undecided ...dont want any regrets... any suggestions?

Answer 1

Make it what you want! Just because it is a second marriage does not make it different. It is up to you on what you want. I think a nice simple wedding is great. My mom had one and it was really nice with close friends and family Good Luck!

Answer 2

Both are appropriate, depanding on the couple. I just attended a wedding that was the 2nd for both (both in mid-30s); it was in a small church, with mostly family and a few friends. They both had big weddings before, and wanted something different. It was lovely. If you want to have a wedding (big or small), go for it. Even though it's not your first wedding, it's the first for the two of you and that's ALL that matters. If you'd prefer to avoid the whole wedding thing, just do it at the court house - as long as it feels right.

Since your families have presumably already been through the whole big wedding thing (which is sometimes more for the families anyway), you may have more freedom to be creative this time. You could even do a surprise wedding - throw a party and then let everyone know that you'll be getting married that day.

Either way, congratulations on finding love!

Answer 3

Honestly, it's really up to the two of you. If you want a large fancy wedding and can afford it, then go for it. But if the two of you can't afford to or don't want to have a huge expensive wedding then go low key. You can have a beautiful simple ceremony without breaking the bank. Invite only close family and friends. Keep the attire simple, but elegant and the decorations minimal. You could make it into a whole honeymoon by going to a cabin in the mountains somewhere. I don't know where you are or where(of if) you're willing to travel, but I know for a fact that there are tons of places in Tennessee that will do ceremonies in your rented cabin. You could do that and then stay there for the honeymoon. Or if you do decide on a courthouse wedding...have it there and then have a reception for everyone to celebrate.

Answer 4

Definitely not a big wedding, but a courthouse ceremony isn't the only option either. Have a small, intimate gathering with family and close friends - just don't do an over the top "traditional" wedding.

Answer 5

It is not a matter of what is appropriate these days, it is a matter of what you both want. I personally think a wedding ceremony in front of your friends and family is the most wonderful way of celebrating your committment to each other and love for each other. You will never regret a wedding but you probably would if you just go to a court house.

Answer 6

It's your day do what ya want! I'm getting ready to remarry in July and my first marriage was a court house deal, and my upcoming wedding is going to be a normal wedding, I guess you'd say "big" with the gown and all, I am really excited about it since my first wedding was generic. Like I said it's your day do what you want to do, not what others want you to, or expect you to.

Answer 7

well, 1st marriage big wedding. lasted 6yrs
2nd marriage, nature wedding. lasted 2yrs
3rd marriage, justice of the peace. 12yrs and going strong.
we wrote our own vows, and we packed the jp's office!!! it was wonderful.
what's most important is that you are marrying your friend-the location takes a back seat to that!

Answer 8

Court house.

Answer 9

We did the courthouse. We have no regrets. It's simple and easy and no headaches with planning and families! :)

Answer 10

You should do whatever you guys both want to do... talk about it... it will never work if you don't talk to him like a friend