I do my chores( without complaining), get good grades, stay out of trouble, I'm really calm escpically copared to some people in my class who will stand on the conters and stuff when the teacher leaves, i don't ask for money, but my mom only points out the bad, ur so vain, u shouldn' t do that it's just a trend ( i don't follow trends!), a b- is good but u can do better, she agues with me about stuff like I about me being a feminist, I'm tired of just being put down why can't she accept me for who i am.
2006-12-28 15:21:03 · 9 answers · asked by Lena 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can understand your problem completely! I do all my house chores everyday, do my part perfectly, babysit my sis, maintaining my grades, never date with any guy and yet my mom still complaining that I'm such a lousy daughter, It really hurts. I tried to explain and communicate with her and it never works! Well, this is what I do...never expect anything from her and just pray that she'ill understand me someday. Instead of expecting her to fully accept you, , try to accept her for who she is. Whatever it is, she is still your mom. I always told myself that. I'm sure she loves and willing to give anything to you! be patience and love !!! Peace ;)
2006-12-28 15:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by ~jenn~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you're going to get tired of hearing that she just wants what is best for you. But... more than likely, she does. Sometimes parents cut their children down to make them stronger. At least that's what they think they are doing... making them better and stronger. It usually doesn't work. Sometimes moms can be jealous of their daughters. Mine was/is. She started having children very young and missed out on a lot that life has to offer. She would get angry with me simply because I was able to do things... normal things that many get to do that aren't tied down. She would condemn my relationships even if they were healthy because she was miserable herself. She didn't do it on purpose and if she were asked she'd think it was absurd but... she sounds the same as your mother. I'm much older now and she's still the same way. The best thing you can do is realize that she loves you. Even if she has a funny way of showing it. Accept her for who she is and love her. Be what she is having a difficult time being herself. If you remain angry or hurt then you'll just be repeating the cycle. Moms are not perfect. Believe me... I have three daughters myself and I know I've made many mistakes. I have never once intentionally done anything to hurt any of my daughters but... I have. Please be forgiving and understanding with your mom. Realize that you are a very special person with wonderful qualities. Your self worth comes from within. NOT from other people. That includes your mom. Good luck to you and God bless!
2006-12-28 23:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww u poor thing...
when i was a kid i was goin through that same old ****...
best advice that I can tell u and i don't mean to sound cliche is to just remember that this **** that you have now won't bother u 10 years from now as long as u know ur doing ur best. Old folks just don't change esp with at ur mom's age she can no longer i'm sure remember what it is like to be a teenager i mean times are different now. As for her bitching, you need to do what i did and just build a THICK wall up and do what u can to not get sucked in. Seems like ur mom is a bit unstable and therefore likes to bring everyone down around her just because she is unhappy with her own life or something. My mom was like that but she also hated being a mom as well ...i don't know the case or details of your mom but just you are learning one of the greatest lessons in life at a young age which is to not let people get you down, and u are also learning how to be assertive...once you get out in the real world these hard knocks will actually really help you if you let it. One way to keep these insults from dragging you down is to not look at it whre you are doing all these good things to stay out of your mom's hair, but that you are doing these things for yourself not for your mom's happiness.. if she still gets on you dont' feel at fault. She is an adult and it's her responsibility as a parent to not let her **** get on u.. stay strong hun!! just don't let thlis **** get down on you or you may be in it forever... be very VERY optimistic, and remember there is always a way for the situation to be worse and embrace this as your learning experience, your story , YOUR own movie.
2006-12-28 23:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by sarah T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same with my mom and dad. I was a good kid, but it seem like no matter what I did, nothing was good enough for them. Don't worry about it because when you are an adult on your own, you wont have to listen to the bickering...well not as much! Moms do that. I'm sure she loves you very much. Talk to her and tell her how you feel
2006-12-28 23:26:29 · answer #4 · answered by angie20k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to have a child such as you describe to be. Is there someone in your family who knows your Mom and you well? This would be the person to talk to. Maybe your Mom had a difficult childhood and she is trying relating you to her upbringing. Try and talk with a trusted family member and then maybe that person will go along with you to talk to your Mom. Sounds to me as if your Mom has some real problems of her own to deal with, it would help if she would seek counseling. There are counselors for parents and children, as there are for married couples. Best of Luck.
2006-12-28 23:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by alwaysdreaming 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your mama is trying to put you down. What you wrote in the little note that I read I wish you were my daughter. Or maybe your mama is expecting to much from you, but remeber you can only do so much. As her if there is something that you are doing wrong and then try to fix it. Really I dont know what else to tell you.
2006-12-28 23:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by karen v 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents naturally want whats best for there children and not that your a bad person she just sees things that could be improved. the best thing for you is to remember that no one's perfect and every one's human...
2006-12-28 23:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by bailey239 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhm...i think u should just talk to her and say how u rlly feel......and just so u kno parents r just sometimes so hard on their kids cuz they want the best for them and they want u to be the best , so dont feel to bad
2006-12-28 23:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by tkdgrl01 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her to BACK OFF. and that your not going to be her clone or w/e. start being a rebel and show her what a bad kid REALLY is!!! dont take her ****.
2006-12-28 23:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by kiss the cook 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋