Hey, weird stuff. My girlfriend cheated on me with a Girl, and I was kinda worried, and I saw em makin out and everything (I'm not a simple man who'd do anything to get his girl in bed with another one). Then I found out she was cheating on me with a guy. I've been down about this, and I just told her I need time to think. She cheated on my with a girl, and a guy. Most friends just say keep dating her, she's bi, and that's good. And she's kinda sexually active. But I want a serious relationship, not a swinger one. What should I do? Opinions?
2006-12-28 15:14:01 · 34 answers · asked by Kevin H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are not totally against it. YOu really need to find out what you want. This could be fun if you are not to emotionally attached. But if you are and you are looking for a serious relationship you want to let her go. Once some one cheats you can never look at them or trust them the same way. It sounds like she is at a point in her live where she just wants to have fun and you are ready for a commited relationship.
You can't force these type of things they have to happen naturally. If she is not ready for commitment then you can't force her to change. She might say that she is but remember that actions talk louder than words and her actions show you that she is not the seroius relationship type. Remeber that it is nearly impossible to change people, So don't make the mistake that most people make and stay with a person with hopes that they will change. They won't. And what she did shows you can't trust her. You deserve better and could find some one on your level. The world is big and their are plenty of woman out their who are beautiful, smart, and mature. I was in the same situation not too long ago. I found out my girlfriend cheated on me with one of her co workers. It first I asked very similar questions as you (check out my question on my profile). Over time you start to think clearer and you see the bigger picture. I would wait untill you are thinking clearer to make a decision. It helped me to not see her for a month and really take time to think and see what I wanted. You will realize that there is better out their.
2006-12-28 15:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by JV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman who is cheating on her man with more than one person does not respect herself. Thinks little about herself. She made you a favor in a way. If you are a one woman's man you will find someone much better. Unless you like to share, but if she had no respect for the relationship nothing will change that. My advice move on, find someone better. There is plenty of fish in the sea:)
2006-12-28 15:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by PINK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cheated on you once, she will do so again. If you are not into a swinger relationship, you probably should move on. Sounds to me she isn't respecting you and your feelings, so do you really want to be with someone like that?
2006-12-28 15:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by cyahlaytar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to jump into a serious relationship I would keep dating her but also openly cheat on her and see where it goes. Some people will quit their misdeeds when they get a taste of their own medicine. If it doesn't work your alright cause you then know she isn't what your looking for. Good Luck.
2006-12-28 15:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by BluLizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound much more mature than the rest of your friends. Continuing to date a girl who cheats repeatedly just serves no purpose. Let her go and find a girl who wants to build a committed relationship with you, and only you.
2006-12-28 15:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently heard a well known radio announcer say that bisexual people were just selfish. They aren't picking one or the other, they just do what they want. Their world revolves around their own satisfaction. This is not going to change. Do you want to be with someone that cheats on you? If not, leave her. She will never change. If you don't, she will probably leave you one day anyway - wouldn't you rather be the one to walk away?
2006-12-28 15:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends only on you... if you're not ok with an open relationship... then... move on... if you are ok with an open relationship...well, you have a treasure, keep her happy, and i'm sure she'll make you happy too... she's obviously into sex... so that gives you an idea of the kind of relation she wants.... did you talk openly with her about the situation, about how you feel, and about how she feels toward you? these questions, should be explore between you two, before you can make a good decision!
2006-12-28 15:21:11 · answer #7 · answered by Max C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want an open, swinger lifestyle with her, don't compromise. If she can't respect that you are a one-woman man and feels it's more important to get her jollies at the expense of your feelings, then dtb - dump that b*tch.
2006-12-28 15:16:28 · answer #8 · answered by mbh2k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should dump her.
Besides shes unfaithful.
N then on top of that she cheated on you with a girl and a guy.
You should move on with ur life without her in it.
I belive you can do better than that.
2006-12-28 15:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by meek n humble spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to risk your own health by sleeping with a whore like that? Don't you think enough of yourself to find someone who will respect you and the kind of relationship you want. Get rid of her and fast!
2006-12-28 15:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by Sally B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋