my friend i met in highschool 7 years ago when we were 14.
when i met her she was pregnat cuz some guy moslested her or somthin. and i stuck around alot and we became real tight and when the baby came he was named after me. and hes 7 now and calls me dad and i never said to him to call me that and he just does and he thinks that im his dad. his moms like i never said you where. and today he was asking me questions :
him : daddy how come i dont look like you ?
me : cuz you look like your mom.
him : some parts of my face i dont look like you or my mom.
me : like what ?
him : i have grey eyes and you or mom doesnt.
me : my sister has grey eyes.
him : how come ezekeil myshliegh and alex all look like you and i dont ?
( those are my other kids who look just like me )
me : because your a leader and not a follower !
him : was i adopted ?
me : look how much popcorn i can fit in my mouthe !!
what am i supposed to tell him ? his mom has know idea what to say. were not together.
2006-12-28 15:08:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he needs to know the truth!
better sooner than later!
2006-12-28 15:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by mary_not_cathy 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are not his real father and that you and his mother love him no matter what.
If you think he's old enough to understand what happened to mom, tell him, just try not to go into detail. Say something like, someone did something they weren't suppose to do with your mom and she loved you so much that she kept you, or something like that. Do you all talk to him about not letting other people touch his private parts? He might understand more than you think. If he's asking these kind of questions, I would say he does. Just be honest with him, if you think you might need some help talking with him, there should be some counselors in your area to help explain it to him and to talk to him after wards.
I can tell you from my personal experience that kids can handle alot more than we think they can. I had to explain to my daughter (she was 5 or 6 at the time) that my (ex) husband is not her real dad and even though she has questions about her real dad and what happened, she's okay with the explanation that we gave her.
I hope you all the best and always be his dad.
He will need you more now then ever. Good Luck.
2006-12-28 15:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by confused angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 21:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth to a certain extent, obviously not the fact that his father molested his mother and thats how he came to be.
but explain that he does have a different father that isn't around and maybe sweeten it up by saying it don't matter cause you want to be there for him. He's old enough he'll remember this and it will cause a lot of resentment if he finds out the truth later in life.
2006-12-28 15:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by gypse76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really sweet to let this child call you dady! and as for your question and your answere for the child you can just tell him that ..."God made you Very Special for your mommy" "you are one of a kind and there is no one like you because God made you soooo special"
I told my daughter that one time when she was younger and still to this day and she just turned 5 today she will tell everyone that God made her special and there is no one more special than she is!
Try it!
2006-12-28 15:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by nickole30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww, i feel so bad. yeah this is a hard situation, but sooner or later you are going to have to tell him the truth. i mean he cant be living his whole life a lie.
2006-12-29 01:35:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so sad.
I don't know what to say, I think he's still too young to know. Just tell him he'll figure out in due time?
2006-12-28 15:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'd better tell him the truth. Sounds like a smart kid, he'll be okay
2006-12-28 15:14:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do need to tell him you are not his blood father. dont go into detail about who his father really was. But assure him that you love him as much as you would if he was your real son. It is not good to lie. so clue him in but gently.
2006-12-28 15:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by Tess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know, this is complicated, talk it over with his mother and figure something out. He's to young to understand the whole story
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2006-12-28 15:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by brillohead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋