and feel as if your relationship has worked despite the distance? Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we love each other very much, but in the last year since he's moved we fight more. I'm mostly dissatisfied with the long distance, he is fine with it because he's so happy with his job and doesnt think about it. Will this relationship work, or am I wasting my time......LOng distance relationships suck!
2006-12-28 15:08:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was once in one and after half a year I missed him so much I went over to visit him for Christmas. But the problem was - he seemed different and I was really sad because the guy he was before was great. So I finished with him and was glad I saw him again to find this out. People change dependig on what people they are around and that's why I thought he had changed. You won't change because you're in the same place as before - so it's only him that this might happen to...
However... in the wars women would be without their husbands for months and years and they would never stop loving each other. So it's possible for it to work.
The question is - can you handle it being long distance and not having someone you can hang out with etc.. ?
2006-12-28 15:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by l04i16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same thing, and it's worked for me. If you two really love each other then there's no point to break it off. However, it's iffy because you say he's fine with the distance because he loves his job so much. A positive aspect of the whole long distance thing is that when you two see each other in person, the reunion will be more special because you don't see each other every day.
2006-12-28 23:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by wildgrace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived 3 hours drive from my boyfriend so it isn't so bad. He will be able to take advantage of a very early retirement in a few months (he is 17 years my senior) and he plans on moving down here with me after that. So far it has worked out great. I am worried about when he is with me every day.
2006-12-28 23:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand. at least you guys are in the same country. i was in a long distance relationship with a guy for 2 years that lived in africa. in the end we "mutually" broke it off because we both (probably just me) were always miserable. it's rough. if you guys are really in love you'll last. but i'm gonna tell you one thing. if you can stop dating for a while, heal, and then get back together and the sparks are still there. that's the BEST
2006-12-28 23:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by Rebekah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly believe anything can work if you want it to. it's gonna be hard but if the two of you really want it to work out then you'll find a way. i know a couple that have been together for over a year and they live much farther away than you and yours. he's in like pa and shes in tx. and they're very happy. thats what i call dedication. plus it gives you a chance to be creative. theres phone sex, you can write each other sweet letters, you can get myspace accounts just for each other and keep adding new pics and comments for one another, you can keep one of his shirts and he can keep um er your panties or something to have a constant reminder of one another, you can sleep in his shirt when you miss him, theres more i'm just drawing a blank. and you'll have a lot to talk about when you're together.
2006-12-28 23:10:58 · answer #5 · answered by yo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance only works if the distance is temporary. if you don't see a plan to move closer, then it will probably fall apart. that's what happened to my relationships.
the fact that he seems more into his job than into you, well, that's another sign that he doesn't value the relationship as much as you do.
2006-12-28 23:17:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how it is My BF can be gone for a month or 2 at a time...working offshore ... to have a week or 2 with me and our son..LDR's fn suck
2006-12-28 23:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋