i am 15 yrs older than my 2 sisters but have always been close to them. we have shared apts and partied etc. i have since moved 20 miles away and i seem to never get asked to join them. they do have mutual friends and are into horses and i am not. but when they go on other trips that i would like to be involved with and not invited.....then hear them talk about it i get hurt. i would never ask one sister to go somewhere and not the other. and they never come to visit me (the 20 mile away thing i guess). any suggestions? or am i just being too sensitive?
2006-12-28 14:59:49 · 16 answers · asked by cindy p 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i dont think your being too sensitive...i think they just dont feel as close to you anymore.with the 20 mile thing and you being 15yrs older and if you dont have many things in common they probably feel they would or you would be bored when your together.talk 2 them hun.
2006-12-28 15:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by *~$The 1 nd onlii shawty$~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am assume you are a female...and they said 'three's a crowd'...like you i have two older sisters but maybe our age gaps are not as wide as yours. we are all two years apart and fought alot when we were growing up. I remember there are times when i am closer to my eldest sister and at times closer the other one and sometimes they are closer to each other, sharing secrets that i do not even know about. Do i get jealous? Yes i do but i have come to realise that we are behave very much like friends do, you know the more you spend time with one, the close you become. Now that they are both married and i am not and like you staying on my own, i know that they are much closer. Am i upset by that or should i be sensitive? Nope, cos i know they still care about me but we do not have to tell each other constantly. well that said, i think you can start by taking the first step...maybe meeting up for lunch or dinner with both of them...there are things that we can do as a group. They are your sisters, make the effort and i think they will sense your sincerity in reaching out and i am sure will reciprocate. If they do not, at least you have taken the first step and should be proud that you are doing something to strengthen the sisterhood. Like we say blood is thicker than water and sometimes this can only be seen during difficult times. Hang in there, sister!
2006-12-28 15:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by labrin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried telling your sisters how you feel? The best way to solve these things is keeping the lines of communication open. Always communicate to them how you feel and let them know you love them an that you are not angry with them. As far as them visiting you, let them know you want them to come see you sometime. Do they have transportation? Is there a problem with gas money? Offer to cook dinner for them one evening and you girls just hang out and chill. My daughters and I use to have a girls night out at least once a month. It was a lot of fun. I hope I've been helpful. Good luck. Just talk to them. I'll bet they don't even know you feel the way you do.
2006-12-28 15:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried inviting them over? maybe you should start getting close to them by asking them to hangout with you and then they'll ask you the same thing. But if they don't, don't worry about it. Just let it go. You'll have so many other great people to be friends with....It just takes time and patience.
2006-12-28 15:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.k so I am 15 too and I have three older brothers that go to college and I have one little sister and what I do is I just try to do what they like to do and it works even thought i am not good at video games we still have fun. so just try what they like to do and you ll have fun because your all together ( showing some interest in what they like to do such as horse back riding,and it will get u invited to some of their stuff)
2006-12-28 15:09:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur just being too sensitive and let ur sis's relax they wana have ur fun and maybe sometimes without u hanging around them to where they are old enough that they can do stuff on their own ur being like their mother and maybe if u stop being such a baby about them and let them live their life and u do yours with ur own job and stuff maybe they would invite u to an outing and parties and stuff like that so just leave them alone their getting grown up now and ur gonna have to let them go sometime
2006-12-28 15:06:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sara R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 sisters and we're scattered all over.
What we do to maintain our relationship is 4 times a year we meet for a long weekend....just us...no husbands and no children.
We do something fun and inexpensive.
It's worth a try.
2006-12-28 15:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be feeling sensitive. But talk to ur sisters about it and keep inviting them to ur place they will come soon.
2006-12-28 15:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by janine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your sisters and let them know how you feel. Maybe you should invite them to do something.
2006-12-28 15:03:35 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Pleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them. Plan a Spa Day or Shopping Spree. Have a You day!
2006-12-28 15:04:35 · answer #10 · answered by Dani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋