so this old guy- friend of mine has been calling me up since 2 weeks ago trying to get me to go with him to register for some classes at college...because he doesnt want to go alone. I said yes but i let him down because that day that he wanted to go was my anniversary with my bf. He kept on calling to see if i was still available. he even left me a message. He did not go with any of his other friends. He calls me 1st thing in the morning today after he gets right back from work to see if I could go with him i told him 'its close'. we hang up & decide to go until next month. after 30min he calls back to say "i am bored tell me what to do?what can i do?". He was thinking of going to the beach apparently with me. is it normal to ask a girl out to a beach if you consider her "just a friend"? is it normal? or this guy wants more than friends ? and cant face i have a bf. by the way he called me yesterday and told me how lonley he felt withuot a girl in his life.
2006-12-28 14:52:43 · 14 answers · asked by Dr. Truth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he told me a while ago.. "i never saw you as more than a friend"... but still he comes up with all this weird stuff like "yeah...i rember back then when we use to kick it and you were single"...
2006-12-28 14:53:18 · update #1
i guess he wants more than only friends. do not do it.
2006-12-28 14:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't buy his line...sounds like he is attracted (desperate) but scared of scaring you away and clinging to his fantasy.
Honestly, guys can't help but think about a women sexually....we're programmed that way. But most of us can keep it cool and adjust to a friend relationship.
Sounds like this guy has some personality issues that you have become his current fix to having a "life".
It can be normal to ask a friend to go to register for classes or go to the beach, but sounds like you have tried to give him the brush-off and he isn't taking the hint. So I'd say he seems a bit...odd and you may just have to cut the connection (for your own good....and his in the long run).
2006-12-28 15:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by cyahlaytar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the asking a girl to the beach if your just friends part I mean thats kinda normal i dont see a prob. with that....the how lonley he is without a girl part and the kickin it with you when you were single part, are the things that make me think he could possibly want you as more then a friend
2006-12-28 14:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by chris m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants more then freinds, definitely. i was in ur situation and honey i hope urs doesnt screw up ur life as much as it did mine. be careful. tell him u have a bf adn he doesnt like u spending all this time with him. make sure you know who means most to u
2006-12-28 15:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by flying_tigers999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, i think he is like a stalker or he is in the way to become one. IF you are ok , with making contact then its ok but to me it looks likes he is stalking you and he really likes you and i mean REALLY>>>.............I think that just werid, and tell him , you have a boyfreind and if he still keeps bothinring then tell your boyfreind about this .... GOOD LUCK :0
2006-12-28 14:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by Boss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is lonely and wants a girl, you could be with him on the side and still have ur boyfriend, or just tell him he goona have to find some one else to hangout with .
2006-12-28 14:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by spicy6959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, .......................Wow, that is all I can say. It is fine to be friends with him but what he is doing is just weird and sadly i have seen it before. He is trying to convince you to like him more then your guy. At least that is what I get from what you said.
2006-12-28 14:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by need_to_know432 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he wants to be more than a friend...does he know u have a bf? dont break his heart plzzzz....just be a friend if u want ! dont do anything rude ...
2006-12-28 14:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ali 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of it this way all these times he tries to have your friendship could be his way of saying he may not like/trust your bf. but thats just my opinion
2006-12-28 15:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by clay a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him he sounds bi or gay
stay straight tell him to go f only a girl
2006-12-28 15:00:27 · answer #10 · answered by TIMER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 03:45:56 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋