I am in contact with an attorney to file a paternity suit against the father. His sister upset me by telling me it was not the time to ask for family photos of their family for the babys scrapbook. I want to make sure her mom, her, her brother do not see my child.. Ever.
2006-12-28 14:46:27 · 16 answers · asked by KelBean 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The mother and her hubby are alchoholics. The sister is weird. They do not want to get along. I have tried too many times.
2006-12-28 15:50:56 · update #1
Anything is possiable if you put your mind to it! If you have a attorney then they will tell you everything you need to know! You can say that they are unfit to be around the child and or you could say that you do not want your child around them due to they would possable snatch the child! I went threw the same thing that you are going threw and i have a court order to where her (my daughter) father is not able to see her and all he can do is pay child support on her per the courts. I just went to court with my attorney and told the judge that he was an unfit father and has never showen any intrest in her until i took him to court for child support and they issued me a temp restraining order and then when everything was done the courts issued him a permanate restraing order to where he is to have not contact with us unless she asks to speak to him or she is at the age of 18.
So yes it can be done!!!! No matter what state that you live in!
2006-12-28 15:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by nickole30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is confusing. Your "fiancee"'s family is who you are concerned about...but ...you are suing him in a paternity suit? You can't have it both ways, girl. If you win a paternity suit, that means he is legally the baby's father whether you marry him or not, which in turn means that he gets visitation rights. When it's his turn to have the child, assuming he wants to exercise those rights, you have no say so as to who or where he takes the child unless you can produce evidence in court to show that he is putting the child in danger or that the child is being mistreated/abused. If you are trying to keep the baby away from his family just because you're angry with them about the picture issue, you have a LOT of growing up to do. I hope you're ready for this motherhood thing because what you need to be concerning yourself with is what is the best for the well being of your child, and that normally means having a mother AND a father, along with aunts, cousins, grandmothers, the whole gamut of family, warts and all.
2006-12-28 14:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Be careful that your decisions made now are not made in anger and that they will not adversely affect your child in the future. Making a decision to ban them from seeing the child over not wanting to give photos to you for the baby book is a bit extreme (although obviously the whole situation is not stated in your question... I hope). You say "fiancee" yet you have to file a paternity suit against the "father"? Are you meaning to say "former fiancee" or current, or are you engaged to someone else and pregnant with another man's child? Your question is a bit confusing and from what is stated, not reflecting well on you... you might want to add more information so we can understand why so much anger over what appears to be such a small issue....
2006-12-28 14:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without explaining your anger it is hard to make a judgment. If you are thinking these people might harm your child or challenge your custody then you need to get your lawyer working on that angle.
As the mother you have more power than you think. If you think that your in-laws are a threat, tell somebody that can do something about it.
If you are still marrying this man, you need to be careful, if not, you'll make your lawyer rich in a paternity challenge.
Just make sure you get supervised visitations, that way you have control over how much and how long.
good luck.
2006-12-28 15:06:39 · answer #4 · answered by alli_knapik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't seem like a very fair approach. You go from wanting photos of their family for the baby to never wanting the baby to see them? That' really doesn't make any sense, especially if your biggest concern is for the baby. That would not be fair to your baby if they missed out on being a part of a family that may love them just because you don't like the way that one of them responded to you. It may be possible that they are offended by your court proceedings and wish that you hold off on including them in the whole situation.
It sounds to me that you care more about your own feelings then what is best for your baby. Maybe you should take some parenting classes before you make any major decisions. Be sure to bring up the whole situation when you take the classes to get the opinion of a professional.
2006-12-28 14:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be careful. If you have custody, anyone has standing to challenge that. Grandparents have the right to go to the courts for visitation too. Is it worth all that drama? Is he your fiancee and you two are together?? Does he not believe he's the father? Or does his family just not believe it?
Over time these things have a way of working out IF you don't keep it going on your part. It is far more important for your kids to know their dad and his family - then it is to let your ego and pride react to their nastiness. Good luck.
2006-12-28 14:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by Chula 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand you being angry and feeling this way, but unless they are abusive to your child, you really should just bite the bullet and not interfere with your child getting to know and experience her/his father and his family if they are willing and wishing to be involved. They are just as much a part of your child's heritage as you and your family is. You don't want to deny this to your child except in cases of abuse and to protect your child. It may come back and bite you in the "you know what" if you do.
Give yourself some cooling down time. Find someone you trust to act as a go between/mediator right now if it will help. Like it or not these people are half of your child’s family.
2006-12-28 15:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by Calina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Are you guys still getting married? If you don't want them to know the child, why are you asking for pictures for a scrapbook?
Bottom line....if the father is financially responsible then he has the right to see the child. ie: he will take the child to his mothers home a least.
Put your feelings aside and think of that child and what is best for him/her. It's not fair that the child has to suffer when the parents fall out.
If they are abusive (mentally or physically) then I agree with you. If not, reconsider....for the baby!
2006-12-28 14:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by goodgrleason 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you don't like her family but why make the child suffer by not knowing his or her Grandparents i think you should be mature and act like a parent and don't lower yourself. Unless the grandparents are pedophiles there's no reason to make the child suffer he or she will rubell later in life.
Chris
2006-12-28 14:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by christine h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be better to stay in good with them for the child's sake. They might be helpful with finance's later on down the road if you need it. Legally, your fiancee will get visitation rights but grand parents don't have rights. If he gets visitation it will be hard to control where he takes the child.
2006-12-28 14:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by MsFancy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋