just thought I should let you know that I know you want more than I
can offer and I cant blame you for that,when you told me that you told that
guy "Id LOVE to but I cant" it really struck home,I am the "but" and I know
that its not fair to you!You deserve the best of everything as you are one
of a kind.Lisa I truely love you but I am dying inside knowing Im hurting
you so I think its best that you see other people...I am not going back to
the house or anything like that but Im tired of feeling guilty when it comes
to Colby...I have never even thought of getting back together with Tara
never mind having sex with her!I couldnt sleep at all last night as I
couldnt help but think that you want it to be over as you would Love to but
cant....Well as of last night I guess you can Love to and Can..I wish you
nothing but the best in everything your heart desires and I know you will be
successful at whatever you choose to endeavor.It will take me a bit of time
at work ..but please dont think Im upset with you as I promise I wont be...I
will be most upset with myself..I will always be there for you if you need a
hand or an ear ok....
2006-12-28 14:25:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
pleaase decpther and be bruttally honest as I need to hear it. As I love him but can;rt handle stress
2006-12-28 14:32:42 · update #1
he renctly seperated from his live i n girlfriend Thwy own a house together. She works breeding dogs wich bt\rings $30000 cash a year. Yet he pays all the bills the mortgage exc. He has is own apartment in town and basically survives on cash side, jobs yet he still goes to the visit his son 4 days a week but for 4-5 hours. They havently even talked about a final seperation. Si told him I'm unavailable until he's seperated. I love him alot but I'm with stress.
He thinkls I shouldn't be bothered by his situation, he wants me to be 100% his, yet I am not sure if he's over her so he can't expect me to be completly with him as he isn't comlpletely free.
2006-12-28 15:05:46 · update #2
This was a hard read...He broke up with you...Chicken poo did it in a email, how lame is that, he is no man...
2006-12-28 14:37:49 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am not a guy so i cannot give you his view point from his place. However what ever he may of heard that envolved the "love to but" well he is mad and angry at you for certain. He obviously wanted out or he would not of used this as a chance to get out of the relationship. It sounds as if he has a child with Tara and the childs name is Colby, and that you are jealous of his relationship with set child and have insecurities with Tara due to her being the mother of his child. Do NOT beat yourself up over it. When you think about it, it has nothing to do with the child it has to do with the bond that is there and will allways be between a father and child and Tara gave him the child. So you have some issues to deal with yourself. NO worries we all do and just about anyone or shall i say everyone has them when it comes to a guy who has a child with another woman/girl. It is not the reason he broke it off. He only used it as one. He ran when he could. he did not try to work it out. SO let it go as best you can.
2006-12-28 22:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok I see where he is coming from...he has totally read into what you said and taken it in a negative way. If you want to stay with him then you need to reassure him that he is the one you want and that you didn't realize that what you were saying was gonna hurt his feelings...you can also mention in the future if this were to happen you would say something to the other guy like thanks that was flattering I am happily taken though...with out using the word but so he doesn't feel like he is holding you back...good luck
2006-12-28 22:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ay vez... lets see... whilst I translate from boysihke... plz ask your b/f to
just thought I should let you know that I know you want more than I can offer
1) thinks he's unworthy
2) thinks you want sex and can't do it with you for some reason
and I cant blame you for that,
1) meaningless statment which means that he's very much in love with you and thinks you can do no wrong.
when you told me that you told that
guy "Id LOVE to but I cant" it really struck home,
some guy asked you out and he feels bad because he doesn't feel that you love him back and you'd prefer to be going out with somebody else (a hug/kiss_some major reassurance is in order here unless it's true)
I am the "but" and I know
feels like he's holding you down.
that its not fair to you!
he loves you enough to let you leave him so that you can be happy (aka wow he's great m8. I only know one other person who'd do that. uh... me...)
You deserve the best of everything as you are one
of a kind.
same as above. and he loves you very much. rather besottled actually. he's not angry just very hurt and sad. not angry k?
Lisa I truely love you but I am dying inside knowing Im hurting
you
he thinks he's hurting you by loving you. here comes the part where he says that he wants to break up with you because his actions (aka loving you) are hurting him. (oh and your name is lisa)
so I think its best that you see other people
the breakup line. STILL PREVENTABLE (if you want it.)
...I am not going back to the house or anything like that but Im tired of feeling guilty when it comes
to Colby...
(that other guy who likes you?) he feels that colby could do better for you than he could.
I have never even thought of getting back together with Tara
never mind having sex with her!
well you two have been having sex (congrats), he says that he never has had such deep emotions for anybody else, cites example of ex-gf... uh and they never had sex. and he wouldn't take anybody over you (most likely true)
I couldnt sleep at all last night as I couldnt help but think that you want it to be over as you would Love to but
cant....
sleepless in bed because he feels he's hurting you and doesn't (on one level) want to let you go yet... uh... thinks that you want him to do you? and he loves you. not the capitalized L-- very serious about that word. since caps are odd, probably crying here...
Well as of last night I guess you can Love to and Can...
you're free to do as you please.
I wish you
nothing but the best in everything your heart desires and I know you will be
successful at whatever you choose to endeavor.
wishes you well in life. bids you goodbye
It will take me a bit of time at work...
he'll have trouble gettting over you. good sign if you want him.
but please dont think Im upset with you as I promise I wont be...I will be most upset with myself...
"I AM UNWORTHY!!!" and uh... he kinda feels like it's all his fault. very very sad.
I will always be there for you if you need a
hand or an ear ok....
if you ever need him, don't hesitate to ask. a hand, to help, and ear, to listen. basically I'm your friend and you know it.... the guy's a poet if you don't know it already--
ok so in conclusion-- if u want dis dude--- go get him FAST use the telephone. now. make sure he understands that you love him.
if tele doesn't work go to his house. uh... I think that's all I can say... but get him if you want him, he thinks you don't want him anymore...
2006-12-28 22:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by The greatest and the best. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he doesnt dound angry, he sounds hurt. appearantly you would love to do something with another guy, but you cant because of you bf. the guy thinks he is bad for you and keeping you from what you want. you need to talk to him and tell him what you think of him, and this other guy, the bf is hurting
2006-12-28 22:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by calico_gurl2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to tell you it over, and he doesn't want to hurt you by telling you bluntly. but he wants you and colby to take care. and he needs to be alone now so give him his space. In my opinion i would move on and don't respond to his email.
2006-12-28 22:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by spicy6959 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes gotta be amazingly hammered just by the way hes talking, and he feels very guilty and depressed but i dont think he angry, just sad. Curios as to what the hell happened before this?
2006-12-28 22:31:23 · answer #7 · answered by Tyler_Durden 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sounds to me like he's letting you go nicely.
he doesnt want to hold you back from anything.
anywho, only you know what really going on.
hope this helps
2006-12-28 22:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by BUTTERFLY 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he thinks you want to break up with him so he is just beating you to the punch. if you don't want to end it you had better talk to him asap.
2006-12-28 22:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by sweet sweet me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The translation( sorry to be brutal) is that he is not interested in you anymore, and wants out. Let him.
2006-12-28 22:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by Phronsie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋