What do you think about a Girlfriend with no job and always broke?

Question

She is very picky to get a job, everything is an issue. Even when I offered her to work in my job but she rejected because I work there. Christmas came and she didn't buy me anything but an ipod COVER but bough her friends their gift like purse and etc..
For Christmas She wanted me to spend 150 dollars on her but I backed away from it specially when I had to paid a bill. She promised me some Timberland's for my Birthday November 8, 2006 and up to this date, nothing yet. I have the money to buy my own but since she asked me what I wanted I asked for that. She's going to college and only works 4 days of the month. Doesn't want to make the effort to have a full time job or part time anywhere, like I said very picky. I don't mind paying for things but sometimes you also want to get something in return, We've been together for 10 months and I'm there in the bad times, but what do you all think of this?

She's 21 and only going to school. Her car is messed up. She uses her credit card. She could be a great girlfriend if she would solve these issues, I don't want to tell her because I don't like to whine and I like for people to see their own mistakes and also I don't want her thinking that I'm thinking I'm maintaining her. I'm 19, work full time, I go to school full time, I have a 3.75 GPA. Why can't she do it? We don't live together. No kids at all. It's a long term relationship of 10 months. It's not that I care for the money but a gift once in a while it's nice. She says if she had the income she would buy things for me but that is just words...

Answer 1

I started reading this and felt some sympathy for you, then got to the end and realized you are an idiot.
Why?
The one thing you have to do is talk this out and you say "I don't want to tell her because I don't like to whine and I like for people to see their own mistakes" . How the hell is she going to see her mistakes if you don't help her. So you let her carry on thinking everything is OK then complain to us behind her back, man you are a real creep.
And you think 10 months is a long term relationship.
You are too young for a girl, go away and grow up.
She needs a real man to help her get her life together.

Answer 2

Bro, if you don't put a stop to this now, it is going to continue into your marriage if you take it that far. In this day and age, men and women are equals. If she cannot afford to buy you expensive gifts, she shouldn't expect them from you. If you buy them without her asking that is a diff rent matter. When you let her get away with this, it is the same as saying it is ok. You say she isn't workin but using her credit card? All that is going to do, is get her shitty credit, when she can't pay her bills. If you get married, it will ruin your credit as well. I understand that school can be harder for one person than it might be for someone else, and she needs the time when she could be working to study, but she is taking advantage of you. I might even to go so far as to say she could only be dating you for the money. That is just a guess though. If you want to find out, tell her that the expensive gifts and stuff are going to stop, because you have extra bills and stuff and you don't have extra to spare. Treat her how she treats you. See how she acts then. My advice though is to just get rid of her now, because it doesn't sound like she values you and she is lazy. I wouldn't stick around unless the sex is good. Don't get her pregnant though, cause then she has a gravy train to ride for 18 years.

Answer 3

Honestly, She sounds like someone looking for a free ride- just given your description of the situation. If she has other college commitments that keep her from working (like a sports team) that require more than 10 hrs. of a week of her homework time then perhaps she really is unable to work. Women have always worked, they just haven't always had an income from it. Modern society has sculpted "conveniences" and sold them for a price that requires two people to pay for them. Relationships don't pay bills, work does. "If a man shall not work, he shall not eat", even the Apostle Paul made tents.

Answer 4

Well it sounds to me like she needs to know what life is really like. You picked her so you need to sit her down and have a heart to heart talk with her. If you can not get a word in and she cuts you off by saying "you are hounding me too much" or "quit whining" then you know where you stand in that relationship. You need to think about you and your future and stop worrying about her. She was getting along with out you before she met you. And besides -- how does she keep a credit card and work so little? Communication is the key to a relationship and if you two can not communicate, then you need to step back and rethink the relationship. If the money is not the problem then what is? I think you need to stop paying for things. Or you can try to ask her to go Dutch. She pay for herself and you pay for yourself. Me and my boyfriend take turns. I`ll pay one time when we go out and the next time he will pay. or if money is tight but we still want to go out, I`ll pay only for myself and he will pay for his self.

Answer 5

She is gold digger tome.But stick with her and see whats going to happen. If she still doing her same thing drop her like a hot potato.

Answer 6

1ST I THINK U NEED 2 THINK ABOUT HER SITUATION.SHE PROBABLY DOESNT WANT A JOB RIGHT NOW WHILE SHES IN COLLEGE.NPT SAYN DATZ GOOD BUT MAYB THAT COULD B HER #1 FOCUS. I FEEL U WHEN U SAY U WANT 2 B TREATED ONCE N A WHILE BUT GIVE IT TIME.N U DONT ALWAYS HAVE 2 BUT HER STUFF.JUST HOLD OFF IF U FEEL SHES TAKN ADVANTAGE OF U N DISCUSS IT WITH HER.IT WOULD MAKE THINGS ALOT BETTER!

Answer 7

sorry sweetie as another female if she can by her Friends nice gifts she can but you one.. she is just using you.. find some one Elsa... you disever more

Answer 8

She is not as into the relationship as you are. In fact, she is not into it at all and I would forget it, as you are never going to be her priority.

Answer 9

if her breast size is large she might be worth it

Answer 10

that is great .u can be sure that she need u