First of all, I didn't know he had a girlfriend. I just found out. I've been seeing this guy for 6 months. He lives on the West coast ( where the girlfriend lives) . He is currently works in Iraq. I live on the east coast. We recently took a "family" cruise together. I meet his kids for the 1st time. He hadn't seen his kids for 8 mths. He asked me to pretend that we didn't know each other and that our meeting was a coiencidence because he didn't want the kids to think that he had an alterior motive. While on vacation he asked me to help him pick out a souvenir for the kids "mom" (they are divorced). I picked nice but cheap ( $10) earrings/necklace set. Which was actually for the girlfriend. His older son started to volunteer info and told me that his dad has a girlfriend at home. He denied it at first but admitted it when he returned to Iraq. He said that they are on and off. On when he's on leave and off while he's in Iraq. I have a source who can contact her.
2006-12-28 14:15:38 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For the record. I'm done with him. He is on my perminent "f.u.c.k. off" list.
2006-12-28 14:16:38 · update #1
First of all, she is not my friend. I don't know her but I recently meet someone close to him (who doesn't like him) who is willing to get me her info.
2006-12-28 14:23:49 · update #2
The kids prob told her that I was there. Here's the deal. They think their dad and i meet for the first time on the ship and that we didn't know each other. That it's a coiencidence that we were at the airport together, same bus,same deck (we had seperate cabins), same dinning table, etc. I took my child along as well. He said it would help them adjust better
2006-12-28 14:28:38 · update #3
I know the only reason he wanted us to pretend like we hadn't plan the trip together is because he had to be able to explain me to his girlfriend when the kids went back and told her.
2006-12-28 14:44:03 · update #4
I think it would be right to tell her. Wouldn't you want someone to do the same for you?
2006-12-28 14:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by freedove06 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of, the guy shouldnt have made you act like you just met each other on the cruise. Thats pretty tacky. You should for sure tell the girlfriend. No one needs to be with this guy until he learns how to treat a woman right.
2006-12-28 22:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by W.E.S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why get involved in his mess? You really don't have all the facts since there was so much deceit on his part and you have already moved on. Just let it go and know that he will eventually get everything that is coming to him - good or bad.
And as far as his girlfriend, she is seeing the same guy and knows him as well (or better) than you. He is no different with her than he was with you. Don't you think his kids will also clue her in?
Let them all go and build yourself a better happier life.
2006-12-28 22:23:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. I was in a similar position that I let get WAY out of hand for a long time. Honestly she probably already knows. Odds are she won't believe you unless you have LOTS of proof and even then she'll rationalize it out. Let her have her cheating man and be glad that the guy is out of your life and you got out with out any reminders-STD's, etc
2006-12-28 22:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by dedakated1236 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! she needs to know! but tell her when it's just the two of you around, and find a way to tell her so she will understand and want to understand. if she was a great friend of yours, expect her to feel angry and perhaps betrayed for awhile, but at least try to talk to her and come clean about it. then give yourselves some space to think the issue over. she deserves upfront honesty, especially from you. it's better that she hears it from you rather than a third party (another friend, mutual friend, or family member). perhaps she'll feel less betrayed if she heard it from you than she'd feel if she heard it from a third party.
2006-12-28 22:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by Rebekah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think someone should. If your comfortable and not out to hurt her I say go for it. I have been on the other side and wish someone would have clued me in.
For those that say mind your own business not all girls know that there partners are lying cheating assholes and what if she has a disease that someone should know about?
2006-12-28 22:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by troys_wifey2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, it will help her in the long run to know what a louse he is. Seems he keeps thinking that the grass is greener on the other side of the tracks.
2006-12-28 22:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah tell her.. She probably deserves to know. Don't leave her idly here waiting for him to return from Iraq. Let her be able to move on with her life. She will probably thank you. ... and if not then add her to that lovely little list of yours. :-)
2006-12-28 22:18:34 · answer #8 · answered by chanteuse87 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all ur story 2 big 2 of all yes u need 2 b honest with ur friend and don't let a boy ruin ur friendship would u like it if ur boyfriend cheated on u with ur friend think who it will affect
2006-12-28 22:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by cheetah_gurlz_fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is best for you but you have to ask yourself will this ease my mind or just start a whole lot of drama
2006-12-28 22:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by Tammy s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would u want somebody to tell u if u were in that situation? of course u would wanna know. so u should defineitly tell her before she gets hurt. us chicks gotta look out for each other when were up against guys like that ya know.....
2006-12-28 22:23:14 · answer #11 · answered by smalls8802 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋