i have not seen my brother since 1992. He sent me a picture of himself for Christmas. Then he emailed me and

Question

asked me, " if i thought it was a tacky thing to send me a picture of himself for Christmas?" I sent him a $80.00 pair of shoes. My brother had emailed me a picture of the shoes, he said he liked. So I ordered them online for him. My brother has always thought he was smarter than i and he also thinks he's better than me. Do you think the gift was as he said, "TACKY?" i CALL IT SELF ABSORBED.

He sent me a used pc it didn't work when i got it. I called and told him it didn't work, he said send the m fer back. So i sent it back. He never contacted me agian. I sent him the shoes. Never expected anything. But the day after Christmas, the mail man brings a package. A picture of him. I think it was tacky.

my brother lives in Carlsbad California. He's rich. He will ignore me for years. And to send a picture of himself is self absorbed. He is handsome. He stole my fathers money before he died. My brother is rude, and self centered.

Answer 1

your borhter is an ***. but i suppsoe that he has his story too. but from your side, i think hes an a**hole. if MY brother sent me a picture of him for Christmas after like...13 years then i would be like "what the f*ck??"

Answer 2

Well, it this really about etiquette or the fact that your brother managed to prove his theory of superior intelligence by shopping "smarter" rather than "harder" by simply sending a photo of himself for Christmas, while you labored over the sweaty internet, ordering an $80 pr of shoes?

If your beef is the fact that he didn't think more of you than to send a photo of himself, then you might want to rethink why he sent it. Personally, I've never gotten a photo of someone for Christmas (even from friends/relatives I haven't seen in a longer period than you and your brother have seen each other). I might not be too upset about it. Unless that friend/relative had created a mountain of pain and cruelty prior to our long absence, I probably would like receiving a photo, as a way of keeping him close emotionally. Providing a gift certificate or something similar came with it, of course.

On the other hand, if you hate his guts, and him lording his superior smarts over you, I can see how a photo might not live up to the thoughtful, and expensive, gift of shoes. It does seem a bit unbalanced. However, he did ask if you thought it was "tacky" of him to send the photo. Did you tell him you thought so and why? What did he say? Personally, you'll never know his true intentions unless you ask. It could have been as simple as him trying to reconnect with you on some small level.

Answer 3

He probably felt guilty about getting the expensive shoes and then only sending you a picture of himself. Tell him that if he wanted you to see him he should have came to seen you in person so it could be the real thing at least. Christmas isn't about expensive gifts however, it's the thought and purpose behind it. What was he trying to prove with his picture and were you trying to buy him back with nice shoes? Talk to him and work out your relationship, 1992...damn.

Answer 4

I think it's kind of tacky and rude considering you bought him an $80 pair of shoes. But, what can you expect after 14 years... you wouldn't expect a big pricey present because you two obviously don't have that great of a relationship. But hey, you can return the favor with a picture of yourself for next year!

Answer 5

Well, the way you explain it makes it seem as though he is very self absorbed.
But, lets look at it this way.Did you shop online for yourself and show him what 80$ or more gift you wanted?
He is a guy...not allot of guys know how to shop.
He may have thought that sending a photo of himself after not seeing each other for almost 15 years was a very personal gift..who knows.
But, I personaly have only recieved gifts like that from children..nieces and nephews.I only give gifts like that to my mother,mother in law and grand parents......as a side gift..not a main gift.And it's usually family photos or photos of my children.
So, it could be that your bro is still pretty immature.
But...well..christmas is about giving and recieving......so from your brother this year you can write it off as... i recieved the gift of giving...and....my brother himself for christmas.lol

Answer 6

You haven't seen him in 14 years.... do you not like the picture? Do you not like seeing him?

You bought him shoes... did you enjoy doing so? or did you do it expecting something in return?

Does he really think himself smarter, or is that your viewpoint? Is there a possibility he's not able to send much more than he did?

I think the act of giving a gift is to give freely, without expectation of return. If you give with that spirit, you aren't insulted or put down with what someone else gives in return, but merely thankful for having made someone happy. If you get anything in return, you're happy for that.

At least now, you can see what your brother, absent for 14 years looks like. Thank him for the photo.

Answer 7

He's a real piece of work, get him nothing next year. Everyone has idiots in their family. Sometimes we need to have good friendships to make up for the idiots. You are the better person. Happy New Year.

Answer 8

Wll you are a good sister! He imposed his want for those shoes on you and you, being the good sister youare, bought them for him...and then he sends you a piicture of himslef...very tacky and self-absorbed. (Why haven't you seen him in nearly 15 years?!?!)

Answer 9

I think it was insane on your part to spend 80.00 on a brother you haven't seen in 15 years!

Answer 10

brothers and sisters are cool. its family !!

you can brag about $80.00 shoes (It is a good thing you can do that)
and he can be self absorbed.. its family, support him all you can.