I have a hard time remembering to do little things all the time, and he just thinks I'm lazy or that I don't care about him. I drive him crazy, and I get so upset because I can't control it. Doc appt is in a month, but until then I need some help!!!!!
2006-12-28 13:59:24 · 11 answers · asked by Melissa D 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
i'm in a similiar situation. i am so totally forgetful. what i do is to leave myself notes on a central bulletin board/message center/refrigerator. i check it in the morning, late afternoon and before bed. i also have a similiar message center at work. i swear, i keep post-it notes in business!! i have also left myself voice mails. good luck!!
2006-12-28 14:16:32 · answer #1 · answered by purple_euphoria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am answering this question as a fiance (4 years together) of a man with ADD. So I understand how he can be frustrated.
1) This is something that the two of you need to talk about (as many who have answered have already told you).
2) It's a part of you and your personality that will effect the both of you, and he needs to realize that if he doesn't already (as many who have answered have already told you).
3) If you do not already take Ritilan or Adderol, You (singular) need to think about if you wish to discuss taking medicine with your doctor. There is no right answer to this, especially from my side of the computer screen. If he has been around rather seriously, then you should include him in this discussion, as my bf did.
4) With chores and "little things," get into a habit! My bf and I sit down every morning and write down what he needs to do each day. We use a magnetic white board that attaches to the fridge. This way, he has a list and can't just "forget" and because it's in the same spot, he gets used to checking back at it and adding to it as things come up. Some days it reads "take medicine, Water plants, take out garbage." and other days it's quite long. I know the short simple days seem insulting to write down, but it just keeps the habit going. This activity is easy if the two of you live together, but I'm sure you can adapt this ;-).
5) You need to be patient with yourself. Part of him getting upset may also be a residual of seeing you so frustrated and being unable to immediately take care of the problem.
6)If you two are really "meant to be" this will be just a stepping stone in your relationship. If this ends up being the reason why you two break up, just remember that there are many others with personalities that are more compatable with yours.
2006-12-28 15:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by moonstone84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had ADD all my life. Relationships are hard. You really need to be on medication until you can learn behavior modifications. Sounds like parts of your life are out of control. Been there, done that. People who don't have ADD or ADHD have no clue. It is like a roller coaster ride....and being a female with ADD is worse...because not only do you have to deal with the chemical imbalances in the brain with the ADD, you have to contend with the hormonal imbalances during your menstration. It's rough.
Until your appointment, get used to making lists. I have to make lists all the time. Even with medication, lists are a life saver.
Best wishes.
2006-12-28 14:14:53 · answer #3 · answered by tikizgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and talk to your boyfriend about your ADD. I think that he should support you and understand this if he wants to be with you.
I have ADHD and my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. When I discovered my ADHD through testing my boyfriend was very supportive. I have to talk to him about it and explain a numerous amount of things to him about it. He understands and he tries to help me out a lot, he also gives me support. Which s what your boyfriend should do.
So talk to him, show him the information provided to you abnout ADD and talk to him about it. I think it's good for him to understand and have knoweldge about this. It will help him to realize that you are not lazy or you do not care, but you are instead trying the best you can. Good Luck.
2006-12-28 14:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to the morons who are saying you will be single or who can blame him. If you really want to be with him you should bring him with you to the Dr. Appointment. This way the doctor can talk to him right in front of you and explain some things to him. If he still doesnt get it afterwards then get rid of him and find someone who will understand you better.
2006-12-28 14:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Olympiakos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get another boyfriend. You can't change who you are and you shouldn't try to. You are unique and that is great. Live life to the fullest and not with that idiot. No offense :)
2006-12-28 16:59:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ADD is a part of you. His expecting you to be different from what and who you are is unfair and unreasonable. Perhaps you should be evaluating your relationship
2006-12-28 14:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 03:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ADD is a part of you. As long as you do all you can to manage it, the BF must accept it as part of you. If not, tell him goodbye.
2006-12-28 14:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by Raina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, sounds like your going to be single pretty soon.
2006-12-28 14:04:43 · answer #10 · answered by Psycomagnet 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋