What do you think about a Girlfriend with no job and always broke?

Question

She is very picky to get a job, everything is an issue. Even when I offered her to work in my job but she rejected because I work there. Christmas came and she didn't buy me anything but an ipod COVER but bough her friends their gift like purse and etc..
For Christmas She wanted me to spend 150 dollars on her but I backed away from it specially when I had to paid a bill. She promised me some Timberland's for my Birthday November 8, 2006 and up to this date, nothing yet. I have the money to buy my own but since she asked me what I wanted I asked for that. She's going to college and only works 4 days of the month. Doesn't want to make the effort to have a full time job or part time anywhere, like I said very picky. I don't mind paying for things but sometimes you also want to get something in return, We've been together for 10 months and I'm there in the bad times, but what do you all think of this?

She's 21 and only going to school. Her car is messed up. She uses her credit card. She could be a great girlfriend if she would solve these issues, I don't want to tell her because I don't like to whine and I like for people to see their own mistakes and also I don't want her thinking that I'm thinking I'm maintaining her. I'm 19, work full time, I go to school full time, I have a 3.75 GPA. Why can't she do it? We don't live together. No kids at all. It's a long term relationship of 10 months. It's not that I care for the money but a gift once in a while it's nice. She says if she had the income she would buy things for me but that is just words...

Answer 1

I will tell you that in my experience a person like that does not change. My father's wife is that way. She works where and when she wants and she seems to take no notice to the extra work my dad has to do to make up the slack. She thinks nothing of quitting a job for a minor slight - never mind the fact that it will now cost them a fortune in health insurance premiums and loss of her income. If you want to stay with this person, you better plan on being wealthy.

Peace!

Answer 2

In most cases the man does have to take care of the woman the woman is usually the home maker so if you dont have kids then she should have a part time job at least or mabye a hobby that can bring at least a little bit of money to the table. 150 dollars is alot to spend on someone who doesnt do anything for themselves she shouldnt have asked for all that because she was giving you something just as good in return. I agree i would want something in return also because it looks like you are dropping your money in an endless pit because she is using it. I understand very well what you will have to do if you feel like you are being used is just tell her you do not feel comfortable that she does nothing as you work. If she will be living in the house you would like her to help. It should work if not she doesnt really care she just wants you to be her sugar daddy and if you dont like it dont put up with it.

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Answer 3

Give her an ultimatum get a job or get out. She should reciprocate financially. She shouldn't have told you she was gonna buy you shoes for your birthday if she didn't even have the money or intend to. This girl has problems and you will have some too if you stay with her. Give her an ultimatum then after a week or two and no progress she will be with all the other people who don't want to earn a living. The soup kitchen. Best of luck.

Answer 4

Sounds like this woman needs to be an ex-girlfriend. Do you two have children? Do you two live together? If the answer is yes to both, then I can somewhat understand if she wants to stay at home and care for them. Otherwise there really is no excuse for it. She obviously is not putting any work in on the relationship.

If she doesn't live with you, then don't worry about it. Let her parents or roomates deal with her lazy ***. If you keep buying her gifts and paying for her things, then she may be gravy training you and that never should fly. I don't care how freaky she is in the bedroom.

Answer 5

sounds like you're very motivated to work and be responsible but she lacks that drive. unless you want to be supporting someone all the time, i'd say things need to change. it would be different if she was making an effort and working 4-5 days a week instead of 4 a month. i know it's difficult to work full-time during college but there are bills to be paid and character to be built. it's obviously an issue for you so let it be known to her.

Answer 6

She should get a job to help pay the bills if yuo guys are living there together because its not fair for you to have to pay for all the bills. But it sounds like the right things don't matter to you. Sounds like you are in a relationship for the wrong reasons. Grow up... My boyfriend and I live together and have been together 2 years. We are soooo broke that we couldn't really even have Christmas this year. You need to be in a relationship for love and emotional support, not material things. Think about it...

Answer 7

Move on. Cheaper to buy one of those girls on the street if this is what you are needing.
Your g/f really should be ashamed of herself for not making her own way, makes the rest of us look bad. Then again it sounds as if men in her life have always let her get away with this kind of behavior.
I say move on really. Or do not live together, let her pay her own bills. It sounds mean but in the long run it is better for her. Of course she is not going to see things this way. How do you know this kind of female is not taking advantage of you? Only wanting you for the things you buy her or to take care of her? Sounds to me like a spoiled snot.

Answer 8

If she is going to college she might want to put all her effort to school. On the other hand she has to be able to support herself and pay for anything extra that see wants.
Talk to her about what her plans are and why it is she doesn't have a better job then 4 days a month (one day a week)

Answer 9

Where did she get the money for her friends' gifts?

Obviously, she's taking advantage of you. She expect expensive gifts but give none in return. It has to work both ways. It may seem petty, but if she isn't even willing to spend some money on you for your birthday, she probably isn't willing to spend money on you at all.

My advice is to take it up with her. As in, tell her how you feel. And ask her to make a better effort in working. If she appears nonchalant about it, dump her.

[EDIT] I forgot to mention... If her family's rich, yet she isn't spending a dime on you... She might be testing you. Good luck w/ that.

Answer 10

So you have even offered to help her with employment, and it's still a no go? But yet she is buying her friends things for Christmas? Where is she getting the money for these presents? Daddy's money or??? It sounds like she may need to grow up and take responsibility of her finances.