How can i get over him and stop calling him?

Question

i have been with him for almost ten years and we broke up, i call him every day or text him . how do i stop and move on. i love him

Answer 1

Over the course of ten years he has HAD to do some stuff that you did not like.
Every time you get the urge to call, think about those things.
write them down if you have to and refer to the list often.
Ever thought about a new hobby?
now you have more free time to check into one
what about doing some volunteer work this weekend.
Plenty of places would love to have you. Why not give united way a call in the morning.
When you are busy helping others, it has a way of helping you forget your problems as you will see that there are others in much more dire situations than yours.
Do you have an elderly relative that you could visit?
what about adopting a pet.
If you feel the need to call him, write a letter instead.
DONT SEND IT just save it
in two years you will laugh hysterically at these notes. (I promise you will)
also
do a relationship autopsy
do you really love him or do you just miss the companionship?
10 years is a long time but there were plenty of great lessons that you have learned along the way
love him for the things that he has taught you about relationships and about yourself
and honor that love by sharing those gifts with the next man
LIVING well is the best revenge for
the next time you see him
look so good (inside and out) that he will be the one texting YOU!

Answer 2

if you've been with him for almost ten years, it will be a while before you get over him. You just need time, and if you truly love him, then there is nothing wrong with calling and texting him. If you have been together for ten years, then you have obviously gotten along fine, and im sure that you guys will be good friends now, if you weren't before you were together. I broke up with my ex, and it has been many months, and i still try and talk to her on a daily basis. We have always been great friends, and we still are. I love her more than anything, and it sounds like you love him. If you truly love him, then at least for now, just be friends. It is okay to call him. Just give it some time, and soon go to every other day, or whatnot. I even text my other friends everyday multiple times, and that doesn't mean anything. I never dated them, and we are just friends, so it is fine. But if you want to move on, just try to start fresh.

Answer 3

Hello. 10 years for a relationship, you obviously were doing something right. Unfortunately sometimes that happens to the best of us. I was in an abusive relationship where my gf hit me, but I never hit back. After I broke up with her, I still thought "What if...." But then I moved onto a few other realtionships. They too were no good. I'm 31 and didn't have my true relationship until I was 29. If you don't work, find a job. (I'm in no way putting you down) If you have spare time, volunteer at a hospital, etc. That way you are busy and not thinking of him. And before getting into another relationship start out as friends. Keep your head held high and good luck.

Answer 4

This is not easy. ten year is a long time, get conselling and help,if you need, if you cannot get over it. If you can move away, stop calling him , try to give youselve a new look, workout, Go out with your friends and have fun. Try make an other friend. you have to move on, your boyfriend has. and even if he does come to see you ,it will only for sex , because he has someone else. the faster you can forget the better for you, you are not alone, many women, have lived the same situations. good luck , lots of courage.

Answer 5

This is something that only you can do sweetie - words will not be able to make this better, I am so sorry that you have lost something so important to you. I know what it is to have lost someone. I know it does not sound right when I say this but it WILL get better. Not right now, not in a week, I cant say when but it will get better. You cant sit around waitng on something or someone that is not there - sweetie its not good for you. People can go out - meet someone new - but at the end of the day its NOT that easy. Believe me when I say this time will make it better xox

Answer 6

stop calling and text messaging him. He might put out an protective order againist you. For your own health you need to talk to someone who is a professional instead of asking your questions here. He didn't love you if he broken up with you after ten years. Think about that.

Answer 7

Just stop! Go cold turkey. If he doesn't want you what are you doing wasting one moment of your precious life on him? You will never know the life you are missing!!!! Stop calling him, mourn your lose and put it in it's place. It was a special ten years but obviously something was wrong if it wasn't' meant to be. Go on with your life.

Answer 8

Trust me...you will! It just takes time. I continued to call and email my ex(whom I still love) for almost 5 yrs. after we broke up. Now I dont anymore.

Answer 9

it's hard, and we have all been there, maintain your dignity and do not become a stalker. If he has moved on or is still undecided then by overdoing it you will just push him further away. Keep busy with other things and try to meet as many new people as you can. good luck

Answer 10

i hate to break it to you, but its over. your calling and texting him is only going to make things worse. show him that you can be independant and live on your own, show him that you can be happy without him. stop calling him, and if he calls you... dont answer the first couple of times.

guys hate needy girls, if you seem independant and uninterested in him, then he might come crawling back to you