Ok. So I started to like this guy, and then my friend somehow talked me into sending him a secret admirer candy thing our school does.
I think he knew it was me, but now I'm scared I ruined any chance I have of me just going up and talking to him...how do I go about talking to him and not getting so nervous...or did I mess everything up??
2006-12-28 13:47:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you didn't mess anything up just go up and talk to him
2006-12-28 13:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by punkmonk713 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how it is, you're scared of what he thinks, it's natural! And it's because you like him! If some other guy you didn't care about thought you liked him, chances are you wouldn't care that much. Because it doesn't really matter what he thinks. Then why should this guy be otherwise? Just take a deep breath and say to yourself "In 50 years I'll look back at this and either laugh or wonder. It's my decision right now. I choose to laugh" and then walk up to him and tell him it was you leaving him that candy and you're his secret admirer. Smile and be outgoing, because the truth is he's probably going to be just as scared as you and he'll probably like you more if you're easy to talk to.
And remember, you haven't ruined anything, it's just the beginning!
2006-12-28 13:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by ~*MysteryGirl*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he knows it was you, I don't think you messed anything up. The fact is, you WERE a secret admirer of his when you sent it. And there is never anything wrong with going up and talking to someone. Maybe you can take some time first to tell yourself (until you believe it) that you are a worthy, lovable person and that nothing he (or anyone else) thinks or says can change that. Good luck to you.
2006-12-28 13:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by miracle_happen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, and it was the right thing to do. It's better to just admit your feelings, because maybe he feels the same way,and believe me, when you two get together, you'll be totally happy that you sent him that secret admirer candy thing. Just remember, you arebeautiful inside, and out, and if he doesn't think so then screw him!!!
2006-12-28 13:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie H. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mess up your giving him a sign, just talk to him about little things . After a few weeks of that, go for it. Then you will know if it was or wasn't worth it. Good Luck!
2006-12-29 06:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.Beckford 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he make a sign against the Evil Eye when he sees you? Or head in the opposite direction? Or whisper in his friend's ear and then snicker when everybody looks at you? These are not good signs. But if not, you probably didn't blow it. If you can't talk to him without stuttering, write him a letter. Tell him there that you'd like to be able to talk to him, but your brain and tongue haven't connected properly yet. Don't sign it if you don't want to. Use a pen name. Just don't be sappy, or tell him you imagine him naked or want his babies or anything like that.
2006-12-28 13:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by dragons4me3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you messed anything up. You could use this as a good opener. Say to him something like, " So I heard you got a secret pal? Got any idea who? I know if you don't!"
Good luck
2006-12-28 13:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by kjd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mess it up, just smile and wave at first. If he smiles and waves back, he's interested. Ask him to go out with you and a group of friends. Or you could just give him your phone number. If he calls, he's interested. If not, there are other fishies in the pond. Good luck!
2006-12-28 13:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by sos_sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why worry about it,, lots more guys where he comes from,, have fun in your years of school, because after that it is the whipping post every day,, 2 week vacation a year if you are lucky,, health insurance to pay up the wazzoo, and most dont cover dental or eyes,
have fun while on daddies dollar, cuz grown up ville will be around the corner
2006-12-28 13:50:58 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he comes up to you and asks you about it be like "yeah that was me! i really like you" if you're outgoing then make it a funny thing. And he'll probably admire that. I think you can go up and talk to him no problem! Don't be nervous though.
2006-12-28 13:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mess anything up. Don't be so worried about it. We ladies seem to get all in a fluster when it comes to men, truth of the matter is that boys are just as scared of us as we are of them. Just relax, if it is to be it will be.
2006-12-28 13:51:40 · answer #11 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋