Love Triangle?

Question

I am involved with a guy with gf. He has initiated a breakup a few times but often the very next day they would patch back as he could not bear to see her so devasted. It really hurts me badly as he always choose to let me down instead after waiting so long for him. It really makes me wonder if his love for me is true.

I have so many questions in my mind. Did he go back to her because of love or just out of guilt and responsibility? Even if
they are back together, will their feelings for each other get
stronger?

Maybe someone can knock some senses into me and let me forget about this guy.

Answer 1

When he breaks up with her he worries that he will lose her; and he worries that if he doesn't break up with her then he will lose you. As long as you both accept him back, he will continue to go back and forth.

The more times they break up, the more likely they will break up again - it does not strengthen a relationship to run from it.

Next time he breaks up with her, maintain some distance. Let him know that if he goes back this time, it will be the last time he will get to be with you. Promise yourself you will stick by this, no matter how much it hurts. If he stays with you for a long enough period time to know that he has finally left her, then give more of yourself - but not until then.

And if he goes back to her anyway, move on. It will show that he wants her more than you and you will not be able to change his desire. It is not fault of yours, it is a fault of his.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Some guys just can't settle down in a smooth and normal relationship.. when things are going on well, they like to create some kind of roller-coaster, then people cry over him, fuss over him, they seem to enjoy the often breakup and then dramatically patchup process. Then, they become satisfied. Such people usually need a backup who is always there for him, comfort him, rally on his side against the "bad" but "official" girlfriend. Perhaps he just have problems with letting go stuff due to some kind of insecurities in his personality, but no matter what, you do not deserve to have to wait endlessly for such a guy, whether he's purposely doing that to hurt you or not. I mean, come on, you can't even have some kind of unbreakable promise to you now. Trust me, the longer you wait, the harder it will be for you to let go.

Answer 3

Hello Honey,
There are many beautiful man around... Just hang-out and you may get lucky "if" you give them the opportunity, when these man trying to approach you...

Dont waste time on a guy like this, even thou he have break up, and come to be with you, you still wont have the security being with him even thou he give you the assurance.

Trust me, he's memories of her will still remain all the time; each time when he's out with you or when he's with you.. he will some how rather make some comparison of her and you..
Which will make you more piss-off at times..

To me on Pretty or Ugly Girls/Man; in every Human eyes; Every Girls/Man are Beautiful, it's the matter of how they make the best out of it to gel into another one's life. This is where they make a perfect couple in their whole life...

Think about it Honey... I hope i did gave you some sense..

Answer 4

I am having almost the same problems with you. I know how you feel. It really hurts very badly! My bf's gf even will threaten to commit sucide, so he keep asking me to give him time, but how long we have to wait? It is so unfair to us!

What should we do? Maybe we should hug each other and have a good cry!

Answer 5

Sorry to say this, I feel that you shouldn't get involved with this guy anymore. Basically I feel that this guy is flirting around with you that's all. if he really love you, he will not go back to his gf after initiating a breakoff.
I suggest that you let go of this relationship and carry on with your life. I believe that there is better guys out there who will treat you better than him.

Answer 6

as long as he didn't ask you to be his gf, there is no love triangle at least not yet.

love triangle hurts a lot and badly.

give yourself more room and time to focus on your work rather than him as he has to solve the issue between himself and his gf.

that will also give him more time to analyse the relationship between himself and his gf.

it takes time for such sensitive issues to resolved.

mercury of love

Answer 7

i would suggest that u forget abt him and move on. there is no point waiting 4 a guy who wouldn't care abt your feelings & keeps u waiting. a guy who truly loves you WILL NOT lets u cry. Enlarge your social circle so that you can keep yourself occupied n not think abt him.

Answer 8

well as much as i love knocking peoples heads with sludge hammers.... i have to say you should get over him he shouldnt be getting back with her because of guilt. and you dont have to take this ! there are plenty of guys out there ( like me for example, if i wernt taken ) who wouldnt leave you in the dark like that.

Answer 9

FIRST OFF HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU HE DOES STILL LOVE THE GIRLFRIEND AND IT'S NOT OUT OF GUILT OR RESPONSIBILITY EVEN IF HE DOESN'T TRULY LOVE HER LIKE HE WOULD END UP MARRYING THE GIRL HE CARES MORE FOR HER AND HER FEELINGS THAN HE DOES FOR YOU AND YOURS... MY BEST ADVICE WOULD BE TO GIVE UP ON THE THE EGUY AND FIND ANOTHER

Answer 10

honey, Ive been there and done that. he isn't gonna leave his girlfriend for you or he would have already done that by now. trust me it hurts more in the long run than it would now if you broke it off.