Let me cut to the chase.
I'm 17. I've never had a boyfriend, not because no one wants me to go out with them, but because I choose not to have a boyfriend. My family is very good friends with my best friend's family, and I have grown to love being with them. Our families always do things together. Ok, here's the "problem".
I hopelessly admire my best friend's brother. It's so easy to talk to him, our families being close, and yet... I've been freaking out a little lately. I've developed these feelings, and I honestly can't say I've felt like this before. I've only told my best friend and "HIS" best friend that I'm crushing on this guy.... my best friends brother.
They both say that there's possiblities. They say "HE" never tells anyone what girl he likes. Truly, it's a mystery, because no one knows who "HE" likes.
It's so natural to talk to "HIM". I really love him as a brother, but I wish someday we could be more. I tried to dismiss these feelings, but they came back.
He's 14.
2006-12-28 13:40:42 · 3 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Funny thing: My dad is three years younger than my mom.
Lol ok, I'm definetly NOT considering dating right now, or even... letting him know I like him. Dude, I'm 17. I'm not doing a relationship with a 14 year old! Please people, I know. I just... wanted to know if it was... well...weird I guess. I dunno, it takes alot for me to like a guy. I'm not easy like that. I try to live life without jumping from crush to crush. This really took me by suprise. That's what I like about him. He's the unknown. The suprise.
Annndd...... did i mention we're all homeschooled?
Also, it would be nice to have advice from the opposite sex. Not that girls can't give advice of course!
2006-12-28 13:41:31 · update #1
No, it is not weird. It is not bad. Feelings are feelings. It is what you do to express those feelings that could cause confusion or trouble.
Dismissing the emotions, repressing them, ignoring them is not dealing with them. What you need is a way to express the feelings without doing anything stupid.
The problem will get more complicated in a couple of years (say when you are 19 and he is 16). Perhaps this crush is to motivate you into learning how to cope before anything dramatic could possibly happen. Use the time to prepare yourself and learn methods to express your feelings honestly.
You do not need to blurt out that you have a crush on him or would like to be more than a big sister. You do need to find ways to express these emotions in actions (I do not mean holding hands or kissing or anything like that).
2006-12-31 14:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by Richard 7 · 21⤊ 1⤋
well now it is ok, but when he is 18 u will be 21 almost 22, you both feel comfortable with the age difference and friends, your older friends might not what to be around his friends, y
ou might not like his younger friends only him.
he taking you to your prom. his prom is almost 3 years from now. so a crush is ok but think of the long term effect
2007-01-01 10:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly fine to love someone younger than you. Tell him you love him and start dating; enjoy life!
2006-12-29 12:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by ICARRYABIGSTICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋