There is this girl at school and since the beginning of the school year weve become pretty good friends and i really like her. She kinda has a boyfriend but not really. oh yea and she is a year older than me but its like were both the same age. i dont no if i should tell her i like her because she may be a little more cautious about talking to me. but if i dont i feel like im going to explode. please help.
2006-12-28 13:26:43 · 8 answers · asked by helping kid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, none of us would want you to explode, so I 'spose you better tell her! lol Seriously, though, you should tell her. Just be sure to not make it seem like you're planning the wedding or anything... 0.o That would be creepy. Just be cautious with your wording, and things shouldn't be too awkward.
2006-12-28 13:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by No O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real problem here, is that she has a boyfriend.
Unless you have reason to believe that relationship isn't going to last, you need to be at least a little bit respectful. (You don't want to ruin a good friendship for nothing.)
That said, you can, I think make it clear that if it doesn't work out you'd be interested in maybe getting together. You need to do this as casually as possible, and you need to be prepared for the fact that it changes nothing today...but leaves the door open for tomorrow. But, then you need to go back to being good friends...making this too big an issue or bringing it up every week will definitely blow up in your face.
Try to meet other people. Right now she has the best of both worlds, a boyfriend, and your undivided attention. Facing a little competition for your time might be just the ticket to get her to see you in a new light.
2006-12-28 13:29:10 · answer #2 · answered by David G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please elaborate on her "kinda" boyfriend. Are they actually an "item", or is it just well known that they like eachother?
Anyways, DO NOT TELL HER. Seriously, things start to change when you do that. It either gets you rejected, or it complicates things and puts her in a bad situation. I'm not saying disregard your feelings for her! Nonono! All I'm saying is, you really need to start as friends. Be a good friend to her. Let her see you for who you are. Don't annoy her, don't stalk her. Be kind! Talk to her! Hey... there are ways to give clues...
What you have to do is maintain your mystery. If you automatically show your cards face up when you like a girl, you might frighten her away!
Also, vent your love for her by talking to a best friend or a brother or something!
2006-12-28 13:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u should tell her, tell her exactly how you feel, just do not blame her if she doesnt want to. she probably thinks the same about you. u go, invite her maybe for a movie or a supper together, tell her she means a lot to you and you like her. if she wouldnt show you much interest right away, she would probably think about it and later she would come to you and tell you that she wants u. be patient with her cuz she is a girl and she has got someone she loves, maybe she needs a week or two to think about it. Bring her a red rose. she will fall in love with you!
2006-12-28 13:38:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Life is short live it at it's fullest. Otherwise just go through another night with only two hours of sleep and spend the rest of your days on Earth wondering what could have been. Take a chance while you have the chance.
2006-12-28 13:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well when u r sure she is not with anyone , u should tell her how u feel, because u never know until u ask her, hey and u never know she might feel the same,and after all guys r suppoesd to ask out the girl.
2006-12-28 13:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by pretty girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey bro.. i guess it's really tough when u really like someone n u can't tell her..u find urself thinkin about her everytime u're tryin to sleep..u feel restless..n feel that u jus wanna scream so loud till u're exhausted..u jus wanna go up to her n tell her.. i've might've been thru somethin like that.. but this is wat i learnt, man:
maybe life ain't about doin what we feel..maybe it's about doin what is right.. cuz maybe our feelins aren't always right.. i mean, if im fallin for a married woman, i dun think i outta ruin her marriage to answer my feelins, right?.. i dunno..
i know this'll be hard to accept, but i'll say it anyway.. please don't tell her.. if she really has a boyfriend, then do this for her sake.. if u really care about her, u outta think about her happiness above yours..would she be better off if u told her?..i dunno bout this cuz i dunno her.. only u know..
but even if she don't have a boyfriend, i guess u might wanna spend more time around her without tellin her ur feelins..get to know her first..enjoy ur time with her.. crushes MAY not last.. so i dun want u tellin every girl u like, "I like you"... i guess it's real tough..yes, u'll feel like explodin..but hey, maybe that's what maturity's about, eh?.. control over the expression of what we feel...so that someone else is happy.. even if it hurts..
2006-12-28 14:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by deathbyte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her, otherwise you'll never know. and i don't think age matters too much!
2006-12-28 13:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by mamachula01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋