ok so my friend knows i like this band so she gave me a band interveiw to read. I said ok i will later, so yesterday i was going through my backpack and found it so read it. It was a pepsi or coke? interveiw but the questions were like kinda dirty. then my parents found it and got mad. they made me read it outloud to everyone eles. then they called me dirty a slut and a whore and forbids me to ever wear a skirt again. they didn't listen to me when i said it was my friends so i just stoped arguing, and now they think im sluty and read porno. the interveiw wasn't even that dirty! and now they won't let me go out at all until im in colege because they consider me a slut! i need a counseler, what should i do?
2006-12-28 13:25:27 · 13 answers · asked by kitkat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
be a kid, and know that we have all hated a parent.. if you didnt hate them at some point in life, then they wouldnt be doing their job right hun!
2006-12-28 13:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by blah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most kids hate their parents at some point. But you are a child, and they are supposed to act like adults. They should have confronted you with the letter, let you explain, and whether they believed you or not, no adult, ESPECIALLY a parent, should EVER say such words to a child. I'm proud of you for taking the high road and not continuing to argue. I don't suppose it would do any good for you to tell them to seek counseling which they desperately need. Try talking to your guidance counselor and if the verbal abuse continues, there are laws regarding verbal and emotional abuse of children. Seek a trusted adult's advice. Grandmother? Teacher? Remember that as painful as what your parents said, they are only words and you and God know the truth. Just do not allow this abuse to continue. I am willing to give your parents a 1 time 'got up on the wrong side of bed" day, or they could have been arguing about bills, work, whatever, and your situation came up after they were already stressed. Let them know how much they hurt you and if this type of scenario occurs again--get help. Good luck!
2006-12-28 13:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by flipdout2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not be what you want to hear but its what you need to hear. Try and have an open mind, this means you're going to have to try and not be a teen for the few seconds it will take you yo read this. Parenting is more difficult than you can imagine, you want the best for you kid and all the while they are fighting and resisting you all the while. Many times parents are scared to death, okay first there's drugs, bad friends, HIV, eating disorders, learning disabilities, alcoholism just to name a few. I began this way cause I want you to see what you parents are being put thur. I know the way they handled that situation wasnt exactly therapeutic but they are still your parents and they must care because they wouldnt have gotten so upset about the interview. If you cant grasp anything grasp this THEY LOVE YOU. Your parents are all you truely have and those so call friends of yours, they like you one day and next they dont. Parents are there for life you CAN depend on them. Its hard, I know, but your relationship with your parents will one day change for the better. Try sitting down and talking with your parents. If you just try and meet them half way you wouldnt believe how much easier you life will be. Stop trying to run the show, accept they are your parent and they call the shots. I know this isnt easy for a teen to do but try it and trust it will work to your advantage. Going around telling everyone you hate your parents is only going to make you more miserable.
2006-12-28 15:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by spirit2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents' reaction sounds a bit over the top, so I'm wondering if there have been other occasions that you might have forgotten to mention where a problem like this has occurred. What you should do is talk to your school counselor, show him/her the interview and ask for an honest opinion, and if the counselor agrees that there was nothing obscene about it and that maybe your parents overreacted, arrange for a meeting with the counselor and your parents to try and clarify the situation, in a calm manner.
2006-12-28 13:36:09 · answer #4 · answered by letsgetagripalready 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...Parents are people,too, and sometimes they just can't listen because they are too upset. You should ask your mom if you can discuss this when you are all calm, and that you have some more to say about it. But here's the hard part...no matter what they say to you, you gotta stay cool and calm. This shows them that you are maturing and can be trusted to discuss things. If you lose it, they will just put their foot down and think they need to protect you because you are too immature to protect yourself.
Never say you hate them, because if they die tomorrow, you will live the rest of your life wishing you would have said you loved them instead. Take your space, calm down, and try to be as mature as you can about it. They know you are not a ****.
2006-12-28 13:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by martiismyname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are they will forget about the entire thing in a couple days. Just be extra nice for a day or two and they'll probably lift the restrictions. They are not very nice to call you names like that but we are not all perfect parents. Try to make allowances for that. It'll be ok.
2006-12-28 13:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well for one your Mom and Dad are old school and they think the life is what they make it and nothing will change their mind. But you should just be patient and it will pass beofre you go to college. But they have over reacted a bit and name calling isn't helping neither. SO be patient and se what happens. Nedd more advice or just need to chat with someone just IM me.
2006-12-28 13:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a Parent of a Teen that says the same thing,and feels the same way lots of time. the best thing to do is to sit down with your parents, with a mediator and explain the whole story from start to finish in a calm manner.
I do not know what all went down between you and your parents, but they should have given you a chance to explain yourself to them in privacy .
and after hearing all of the following then and only then would i have told my daughter to please watch what she reads, and do not hide material of that nature from us, for if she is mature enough to read it and it is for school work then read it in front of us. and nothing else would be said. as long as it is for school.
2006-12-28 13:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by Littlebigdog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you parents called you a whore? oh my.....
just for the record, we all go thru family issues, no family is perfect, although I can't imagine my mom or dad ever calling me a name like that.
I'm sorry for you and wish you the best.
p.s.
try to visit your school counselor and get some of the anger off your chest...
smooches...&....huggs
2006-12-28 13:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by I Think 4 Me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Beat your head on a post until you have beaten enough sense in to respect your parents.
2006-12-28 13:27:28 · answer #10 · answered by not g 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋