Why do mothers/fathers let this go on??!!?

Question

I was in a store today in a dressing room. This lady had her two children with her, one was crying, the other was screaming. I was in the dressingroom next to her, and it was really angering me/giving me a headache, so much so that I had to leave. I was on a break from work. I hardly even get time to go shopping. I am a lawyer, so I work many many hours a week and thought I would get some peace in the store. I also have children ( thier dad stays home with them), he would never take them to a store and let them scream thier heads off. Why are parents SO selfish, and not even consider that other people DON'T want to listen to thier kids screaming while they are shopping?! It's so inconsiderate.

Answer 1

I don't know, but if they were my children or my grandchildren
then I would leave everything in my shopping cart and let the
child know that the reason why were leaving is because of
them. Christmas just passed and my 10 year old was begging me to buy her or just to go look at something that she wanted
and I told her that we were not shopping for her. And I simply
walked away from her, don't worry I didn't leave her by herself
I left her with her older sister (she's 22) and her nieces. I couldn't
take her begging either, it's like a screaming kid. I would just
pick up and literally walk out the store and go home until they
get off my nerves. I talk to my child before we walk in the store,
but if I don't say anything, then thats when she starts asking.
And it pisses me off to the highes pisstivity.

Answer 2

I completely understand where you are coming from. I have a young child (3) and she may try to whine or cry but it never lasts very long. People nowadays don't get that allowing their children to behave in this manner is not good for the children (not to mention the people around them)
Children need discipline and very few mothers these days are willing to give it. They think that discipline means punishment. When really it is just a type of training for real world expectations. People want to be 'best friends' with their children and forget that the kids need to learn how to function in this cruel world.
And even if the mother was having a bad day, there is no excuse for not putting the children in their place immediately or leaving the store altogether. On the off chance that there was a funeral to attend that day, and the children were in mourning, they should have been sobbing quietly and not screaming. There is no way in hell I would take my screaming child into any store under any circumstances. But then, my child knows better. Just goes to show.
I am, by the way, a very young mother. 23 in fact. I have seen people much older than myself caudling their children. I also have noone to watch my children for me. My husband works offshore and is gone for weeks at a time. I am a student in school for dental hygiene and it is very difficult at times, but I make it through.
My child knows how to behave because I have taught her right from wrong and how to be polite. Not because she was born that way.

Answer 3

As a mom of 2 kids...if one throws a fit..and if my husband is with me...one of us will go out to the car with the screaming child...and if both are misbehaving...we will go home..one will stay home with the kids while the other does the shopping...it has gotten to the point where we don't really take our kids shopping because they always want something..thats the main reason why kids scream in stores..parents should learn that just because you have shopping to do...doesnt mean the other shoppers don't need to listen to all of the screaming and yelling...parents who let their kids scream bloody murder are just rude...and parents who just give in to the kids and give them whatever they want...well..they will get pay back when the child is a teenager..

Answer 4

This person obviously is not blessed like yourself to have a stay at home father to take care of her children. Maybe the reason why he stays at home with them, is because they would act the same way. Do you really think that people like for their kids to scream and act up in public? I bet you anything that she was embarrassed and probably did not know how to react.

With laws the way they are today, you cannot even spank your kids anymore in public without someone calling the cops on you.

I know that there are parents out there who just don't care, but don't look down on all parents because you yourself may be in that situation one day. Just remember that the next time you take your lunch to go shopping to get some peace and quiet.

Answer 5

First of all, that parent with the screaming children was a paying customer just as you were. They have just as many rights as you do. Maybe her husband was working, ill, out of town, ect.? Maybe you being in a cranky mood pissed her kids off and made them cry?

That mother was probably having a day from hell and didn't want to hear her children scream either. A CONSIDERATE person would have given her a knowing smile and wished her well.

Point is, you are no more special than that mother.

Answer 6

Yea, my son cries no longer than 2 seconds.- anytime!!!! He doesn't cry often, but when he does, it's usually because he needs something... held, drink, food, diaper change, etc. So if he cries in a store, I see if he wants a drink I brought with me, if not, try the snack I brought, if not, I pick him up- and check his diaper and give him a toy.... but usually it doesn't take me long to find him what he needs, and he stops crying- I think my son actually enjoys going to the stores with me- he has gone with me since birth. Anyways, I do think it's terrible for parents to ignore their children. If they are older and can communicate, the parent needs to communicate with them, teach them good manners, and not be all about themselves when shopping. I'm sorry, but it's rude.... if your child constantly acts up, there's something wrong... and you should shop when your partner or someone else can watch them if that's how it always is. But communication is key... and those parents need to talk to their children and find out what is wrong!!

Sorry you had a bad experience. I probably would have left too, but not the entire store- I'd go look more, and then come back and hopefully the screaming would stop or the parent and child left by then.

Answer 7

Sometimes, when the kids are having bad days, and there are things that HAVE to be done, Mom doesn't really have any choice but to drag them along. She must not get any help from her husband or partner, and has to shoulder all of it herself. I don't like screaming kids either, loud happy babies are different, I could listen to that all day, but since our children have come into our lives, I've learned to be patient.

Answer 8

Mine don't scream in stores but they know that if they do they cannot come again. My three month old though I don't have much control over when he cries and I still have to live life but I take care of him when he begins to cry.

Answer 9

Whatever. You don't even know the whole story, and here you are judging this mom. Once i had to run into the mall to buy black hose for my daughters, and this woman gave me a hard time about them being whiney. Excuse the hell out of me, we're on the way to their grandmothers funeral.

They could have been in their last stop for the day. They maybe were throwing a fit and the mom was training them that it wouldn't get them out of a task that needed done. They could have been trying to buy clothes because it was the last chance they would have had for a while. You don't know what was going on in that mom's head, and instead of compassion, you chose judgement and harshness.

I think it's funny that your husband runs all these errands, maybe he has those problems too and doesn't tell you about them because it's a day-to-day occurance.

anyway, in the end, I know it's unpleasant to listen to kids scream. When I get the rare chance to get out, I don't like to listen to other people's kids. I also don't like to listen to people on their cellphones. But in the real world, no one owes you anything. It's taken me a while to learn this, but they have just as much right out as you do.

Answer 10

Honey, you most likely will NEVER get peace in a store. That's where people go to shop. YES, they take their children with them.
I understand it may be annoying, but it's not the end of the world. And I don't know why you assumed shopping would be a thing to do where you can get peace.