It's my first time meeting his parent's after 2 years , and I'm a very shy girl. I dont know what to do or say . Any advice and how I can break the ice. I'm really nerves, my boyfriend want's to marry me someday , and I'm meeting all his family and I'm afriad they wont like me.
2006-12-28 13:10:28 · 19 answers · asked by kitty 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
And please dont be rude. Thanks for all your help.
2006-12-28 13:11:33 · update #1
Just be yourself. And try to relax.
2006-12-28 13:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by dmstanley02 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok. i have never done this before so what i would do is to not be too quiet. No one likes a girl thats too quiet. Since your shy yourself, try to come up with a topic, like are u going anywhere for a vacation, or whats your new years resolution? Also dont be too talkative. People like that can get very annoying. If the parents are very talkative just sit back and relax and just answer thier questions. And if not, you try bringing up some topics.
2006-12-28 21:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think they're going to like you very much. From your question you sound very caring and polite. Smile, look them in the eye, hold your head up and have a couple questions to ask them when you meet to break the ice. Compliment their home and the meal.
2006-12-28 21:18:26 · answer #3 · answered by Raven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They will like you just fine. If a woman loves her son she will at least tolerate whomever he brings home.
Dont wear anything to revealing.
BE very polite and smile alot.
Ask her a few questions about her hobbies if they are apparent and be very nice to younger siblings of your boyfriend
Dont disagree with anything they say on 'key' issues (abortion, religion, welfare, politics etc)
if it is something you dont agree with just smile and say 'you have a good point', and ask them another question about their point of view.
(did I mention smile alot)
If you want to give her the zinger, tell her that you are so happy to meet her and thank her for raising such a respectful young man. Tell her that your parents love his manners (or some other like compliement)
SHE WILL LOVE YOU, All of the things that her son saw in you, she will too!
2006-12-28 21:19:16 · answer #4 · answered by lisa s 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be polite, be friendly, be yourself, smile, put the marriage thing out of your mind for now because it sounds like it's putting too much pressure on the situation. Be prepared to tell a little something about yourself, like a little story about your dog or your brothers and sisters, in case there's an appropriate moment. Beyond that, realize that they might be nice and like you, or they might not, but you can't really do anything about it.
2006-12-28 21:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by njyogibear 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Always look them in the eyes. Never look down. It's hard when you are shy to look people in the eyes, but I couldn't look my husbands parents in the eyes when I first met them and they took it as a sign that I was hiding something and not good enough. It's been 15 years and they still do not know anything about me.
2006-12-28 21:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by darlene 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask your boyfriend what they're interests are and what business they follow. When you find that out, research the subjects a bit and you'll have something to talk about. When you meet them, totally avoid getting the subjects of politics, religion, or sex. Wear something that is classy and modest, and try a conservative hairstyle. Be polite, call them Mr. and Mrs. (insert last names here). Do this, and things will go just fine.
2006-12-28 21:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by hottie_spaniard 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know excactly how you feel! i met my boyfriends whole family after being with him for just over a year.it was a boxing day gathering and there was over 100 ppl there(cousins ,aunts, uncle) you name it they were there, it was scary, and to top things off he went out fishing with all the boys and left me there with all these ppl i'd never met in my life.
My advice is to just be yourself, dont try to hard to impress coz ppl know when your being fake. And dont be too nervouse, im sure your boyfriend has alredy told them heaps about you, and they will love you. All the best.
2006-12-28 21:20:13 · answer #8 · answered by babycarrier06 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, dont be nervous, just be yourself and let your boyfriend know exactly how you feel and maybe make a plan that if you get too nervous, you can cut the visit a little shorter. Have a code so your boyfriend will know and you wont have to say it in front of his parents. I bet you will be fine if he loves you then trust that they will as well.
2006-12-28 21:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by nicholas k 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could start with a joke if they are the funny type.
Once I wore a paperbag over my head with holes cut in it, and when they asked why I had a bag on my head when I met my girlfiends parents, I told them it was the only way I could get their daughter to date me... they thought it was pretty funny. Just dont take things too outta proportions with jokes, but dont be too quiet, quiet is good, and sometimes its best to speak only when spoken to. Or, if someone brings up something, ask about it.
Like for example...dad says something about his job, ask what he does for a living, be curious. Its going to be like your dating both of the parents that night, dress to impress, and speak intelegently to keep there attention. If done right, they will never forget you in a good way. =)
2006-12-28 21:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by Rocker 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you should just say the normal "nice to meet you" and make sure you tell your bf to make conversation that will include you so you can feel more at ease and be yourself, dont try to impress them, they should like you for you and not for someone you try to be around them.
2006-12-28 21:53:58 · answer #11 · answered by ednaywilliams 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋