I have a 13 month old, she tries to fall sleep but cant I rock her, sing to her, breastfeed her, put her in my bed and she is just not falling sleep she cryes and is heart breaking. I change her panper check the weather I don't undestand what is wrong .She wakes up during the nigt and is the same thing. She wants but can't fall sleep
2006-12-28 13:05:05 · 8 answers · asked by xihuitl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I think a visit to her doctor is the first step. You want to rule out any health problems. If she gets a clean bill of health, you need to try to let her cry it out a bit longer. She seems to have established a routine that involved a lot of mommy time, and it won't change without some "firm" love. I would just leave her safely, with a night light a special cuddly thing. Come back after two minutes (if she is still crying), tell her Mommy is right hear, you are just fine, night night, I love you... and leave again. Again if she is still carrying on after 5 minutes, the again after 10 minutes. It sounds painful, but it can work in breaking her habit. It may take several nights, but each night there should be less and less time crying before she goes to sleep. She can learn how to comfort and settle herself, but it takes determination and patience. Just make sure there is no medical reason for her behaviour first, and good luck.
2006-12-28 13:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by lawpmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is a recent development I would take her to the pediatrician. She may have an ear infection. Somtimes laying down increases the pressure and thus the pain.
Could also be teething. I would try giving her a little Tylenol about 20 minutes before bedtime. Also teething tablets by Hylands really saved my sanity.
Does she have gas? Could be something she is eating is upsetting her tummy. Or you mentioned breastfeeding, maybe something you are eating.
Also you didn't mention naps, but is she maybe ready to cut back on that a little? Does she have problems sleeping then.
I read some that say let them cry it out, but I don't believe in that. My 2 year old is lying next to me in my bed now. I put him to sleep and then carry him to his bed. We did the same for my 8 year old and he has slept fine on his own for years. Parents who feel they should be able to put their kids in bed with no snuggling are missing out. And why would I want to teach my son that when he crys I won't come?
Hope something helps. Good Luck.
2006-12-28 22:06:26 · answer #2 · answered by micheletmoore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first how many naps does she have doring the day? and how long are they.ur baby should take at least one nap a day . lay her down at 1:00 and let her sleep for aleast 2 hours . then keep her up til bed time. play with her and give her a lavender bath , johnson and johnson has one for babies.do this an hour before bed time.then give her bottle and a snack. then ist lits out til morning. do this as a regular basic.i did this for a 3 kids the first couple days are the hardest but hang in there.
2006-12-28 21:27:20 · answer #3 · answered by gramchn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this problem with my little guy at leat twice a week not all the time, and I know the day this will happen because as soon as i put him in bed he just does not want to go, so I first try a massage from face to (concentrating on the tummy) to his little toes, if that does not work try my last resort is a smooth car ride it works just like magic.
2006-12-29 01:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by Marylou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to change her schedule in the days? Example: wake up at 8:30am; Outing at 9:30am; Going back home at 10:30am; Lunch at 11:30am; nap from 12:15pm-1:45pm; Fun time in the whole afternoon; snack time 3pm; TV time after; supper at 5pm; shower 6:30pm; daddy time: 7pm bed time 8:30pm (bottle of milk before bed).. just keep your baby up at much as possible in the day. That was what I did.
2006-12-28 21:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by Rainy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feed her. Make sure she is full.
I would take her to the dr because something could be wrong you can see or notice. Because she wants to go to sleep and can't give me the indication that something is going on.
2006-12-28 21:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-01 10:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a warm bath
2006-12-28 21:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋