2006-12-28 12:26:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think there is more than one answer to this question. First of all, not to have an explanation gives us no chance for closure. It keeps us from 'ending' things in our own mind and heart. We don't know what happened.. what went wrong.. so we don't know if we did something.. or if we said something.. so we are in limbo.. such a thing as that is most difficult to let go. Secondly, for someone to leave you without an explanation makes them a coward. When you have put your heart and soul into a relationship, and you have loved that person and believed in that person, it is heart wrenching to discover that they are no more than a coward with no consideration for your feelings.
It has happened to most of us at one time or another, and my advise to anyone in a relationship.. consider how you would want to be treated before you are so cavalier with the feelings of someone you have shared time with. To do otherwise, only makes you a weak coward.
2006-12-28 12:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by Nancy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess they were afraid that they would hurt the one the love or once loved deeply. But the bottomline is still that when they leave with or without an explanation, they would have hurt the ones they love. Right?
And knowing the reason of one's departure, what else can we do?
We can change for the better when we meet a new person. But what if we still love the person deeply? What if upon knowing the reason and you say you will change but he/she still insists on leaving?
So, most of the time, I rather no explanation were given. Yes, it hurts but that's a process of growing up.
2006-12-28 13:53:27 · answer #2 · answered by fishy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are left to ruminate/over-analyze why the person isn't talking to you anymore. You might think something horrible happened but you can't do anything to find out for sure. You don't have a shot at open communication or making the situation right if you don't know what's wrong. Then you will jump to conclusions and maybe do something stupid. If you know the reason, you can eventually accept it and move on. Plus, you'll respect the person who told you more and you'll be able to make changes in the future. The only really caring/human thing to do is tell someone the truth so they can change. Otherwise, you're just being selfish and stringing them along.
2006-12-28 12:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because what we 're looking for is closure when our hearts are broken. It can come in many forms, but without explanations, and or reasons, the process is at a standstill. We are forced to start the process from scratch, in a way. When the person who broke our heart gives us "reasons" we can later use them as part of our healing process by trying to understand what went wrong, so without them now all we have is a broken heart and lots of questions :( It will get better though.
2006-12-28 12:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by Meg 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After treating like they should be and all of a sudden they without any good explanation as to what went wrong...Yes they are cowards and there could an element of dis-honesty some where.
2014-11-29 09:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have no closure, no information to understand if you did something wrong or not. No nothing. No answers. Just emotional turmoil. This is why I do this to women who cheat. They cheat, then lie about it, then sort of admit to it, and then try to blame you...yeah right, so I give payback by simply dissapearing. Unless we're breaking up together, and she's not being a coward, and she's being honest.
2006-12-28 12:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because youre left guessing! I've been there and it sucks. I believe you need to get some questions answered, which is very necessary for healing. Without closure, healing takes much longer.
Good Luck
2006-12-28 12:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by jlowe06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because this leads to self blame quickly, we start thinking in "All or nothing" style, this is its all because of me,
we are hurt because we think he left us because we are bad, and we dont want to be thought of as bad.
we are hurt because we were not given a chance to explain
we are hurt because we feel betrayed
we are hurt because we could not hurt them in return.
sometimes more than hurt we are angry
we are hurt because we resent the fact her did not give an explaination
YOu know what? ask your self if this is true, and act accordingly.
who ever left you without an explaination is a person who can be damaging to anyone.
2006-12-28 12:38:53 · answer #8 · answered by thachu5 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is more hurtful because it leaves you wondering if you did something wrong that caused the other person to leave.
2006-12-28 12:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they have made a conscious choice to be disrespectful and be a coward instead of facing you, which is insulting in two ways- they didn't respect you enough to talk to you and... by acting like a coward they have made it glaringly obvious that you made a mistake choosing them in the first place which makes us mad at ourselves.
2006-12-28 12:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋