Today is a real shocker. My boyfriend dumped me 3 months ago, it was all of a sudden, no explanaion, we were going to get married next yr, it was all in a snap of a finger and I didnt know why.
He left me for another girl, I found out, and was with her the day after we broke up. Today I learned from his old roomate, he was on drugs, and so was she.
This explains the sudden change of heart, and why he was so rude. He was a real heavy drug user in the past and when I met him he was clean for a few yrs, and I never judged him. 2 yrs later he got into the wrong crowd again.
I dont know what to do or think. It explains everything now. What can I do, or should do?
If I talk to him about it, he will just deny it. Cause hes having too much fun with the new girl. Going back to help him, might be a mistake cause he obiviously isnt the right one for me. But I stil love him. There is so much more to this sotry, so please dont judge me.
2006-12-28 12:11:05 · 12 answers · asked by confusedbrowngirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on..... you don't want to get involved, you will only end up hurting more
2006-12-28 12:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by apark3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you are going with this question, but if your former boyfriend is back on drugs then he did you a favor. A major, major favor. Last thing you want to do in your life is to have a close and intimate relationship with someone who does drugs. It ends up being more of a stress for you and the relationship. Only thing drug addicts love and live for is getting their next hit.
I hope the guy gets help and cleans himself up before the authorities find him dead in a dumpster. Otherwise, he will drag himself down and everyone else who is around him. Drugs have a very destructive effect on people. It ruins lives and the relationships they have with other people. I am sure his parents are going to the ones who will be hurt the most.
Thankfully I have never dated anyone who was a druggie, but I have known people who have. They tell me that if one gets past the idea of having to bail someone out of jail, having to deal with their problems while high, or having money stolen from you to support their habits, then druggies make wonderful partners. LOL
2006-12-28 20:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your job to save the world, especially some druggie. He's made his choice, and he chose the drugs.
If you feel like you have to have a project for a boyfriend (it would seem a lot of women feel this way), then why not pick someone who already has his crap together and go from there. You'll get a lot farther in life, and he'll appreciate it more.
2006-12-28 20:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change someone. I actually am clean. I left my two childrens father and he was on drugs really bad. I was crying all the time and upset and I was pregnant. Trust me you are better off. I left him had my mom pick me up in N.C. no diapers no formula I had a 6mon. old and a 1 1/2 yr. old. You are better off. Move on do yourself a favor you owe it to your self. Drugs is denial. They don't want to admit they have a problem. And someone into drugs and alcohol are top cheaters.
Move on and do your self a huge favor you will thank yourself later.
2006-12-28 20:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by mother of two 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Count your blessings for a start. You now know the reason for the breakup - surely that knowledge finally closes the door on this relationship.
What can you do? Nothing What should you do? Keep on living your life the way you want to. Put this guy down to experience. What is experience? Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.
2006-12-28 20:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by Flab 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
save yourself a heartache and move on. Why are you heading for the fire. It's actually good that you never married him, drugs can bring STDs and other diseases. you will be fine with time.
2006-12-28 20:48:44 · answer #6 · answered by Life is FUn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that he broke up with you.
You don't deserve trash like that,and know that you can't change him no matter how much you love him,the only way he will change is if he does it for himself.
2006-12-28 20:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though it's great to know the reason he broke up with you,be thankful that he spared you from more heartache,sometimes love is just not enough.maybe one day when he clean up this act you can talk.
2006-12-28 20:20:48 · answer #8 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not judging you.
we all make bad choices .
you don't need drugs in a relationship.
forget him and let it be.
he will only cause you more misery.
2006-12-28 20:15:40 · answer #9 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help him until he admits he has a problem and admits he needs help. It is sad to see someone throw their life away!
2006-12-28 20:14:45 · answer #10 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋